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New Relationship advice Needed ?

Discussion in 'Relationship Advice' started by Jason.A, Apr 2, 2018.

  1. Jason.A
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    Jason.A New Member

    Hi there and Thx in advance for your help i find myself in my 40's British born & bred no kids was married had to get a divorce after an extremely abusive and difficult marriage it turns out she was a Sociopath (another story) however i have tried to date with know luck not even a relationship as none of them have been suitable and in January i met a lovely soft kind and thoughtful Filipina woman having never dated an Asian or indeed had any particular interest i find her to be Literally a completely different kind of woman compared to every other woman ive got to know.
    She was here visiting relatives shes now back in the Philippines i am considering at some point the way things are going in the future of marring her however my situation is abit unusual as recently im currently unemployed due to Back related issues and its looks like its going to be out for about 18 months or so as ill need a couple of operations etc now if i went to the Philippines in the mean time and married her meeting the correct UK requirements as a legal marriage what is my situation upon arriving back in the UK and wanting for her to join me and come and live with me as Husband & Wife, so can she be denied to come and join me as im unemployed as i know if i was working it wouldn't be a problem also what visa and costs are involved as i dont have any idea, thx in advance
  2. Brom27
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    Brom27 Well-Known Member Trusted Member

    To bring her here as your spouse you need to meet the financial requirement of £18,600 per annum if you are working full time. In your case coz you are not working you will need a savings of £62,500 held for at least 6 months prior to the application and that you are in full control of the money.

    If you don’t have that savings you might need to wait 18 months until you recover and get back working then earn £18,600 to be able to bring her over.

    There are many ways to mee the financial requirement so I suggest you read the Appendix FM.
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    Brom27 Well-Known Member Trusted Member

    Take time reading this.

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  4. Jason.A
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    Jason.A New Member

    How long do i have to show im employed for in order to meet the requirements to bring her over ? also im going to have to ask this as you may never know but what would happen if say i went there came back and found out she was pregnant i mean these things do happen where would that leave me regarding having my child & mother with me then ?
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  5. Markham
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    You would likely find yourself in a difficult position, both in the Philippines as well as here. Your child will be entitled to a British Passport, providing you can prove that you are its father, but there would be no special treatment for its mother who would have to apply for a settlement visa in the normal way.
  6. Tizmoi
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    Tizmoi New Member

    Send me a PM, there is a way around this. I had the same experience and resolved it quite easily.
  7. Maharg
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    Maharg Well-Known Member Trusted Member

    Easy solution. Don't get her pregnant. It's not that difficult.

    You need to provide 6 months of payslips and bank statements to show your employment.

    The same applies with each leave to remain afterwards too.

    Visa costs - you're looking at about £1000 each time, and over £2,000 for the final Indefinite Leave to Reamin.
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  9. Maharg
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    Maharg Well-Known Member Trusted Member

    Ignorant? Really? I would say the ignorance goes the other way.
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  10. Anon04576
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    Anon04576 Well-Known Member

    Is there a reason not to share with everyone, I mean for the good of the collective?
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  11. Anon04576
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    Anon04576 Well-Known Member

    Maybe from an ethical viewpoint but I say I have to agree with you in regards to holding back on any pregnancies. Adds complication to an already stressful process, not ideal for a potential mum-to-be.
  12. Mattecube
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    Mattecube face the sunshine so shadows fall behind you Trusted Member

    Rough guide and costs figures are £s

    1st flr application 1600 =nhs surcharge 600 likely to go up this year, English test bout 150 TB test about 50 CFO about 30 so about £2500
    2nd flr after 30 months, as above minus TB cost but English Test more expensive so about the same £2500
    ILR application about the same as above

    So you are looking at small change from £8000 you also need to meet earnings or savings threshold. With flights and other travel costs set aside £10000 at current fee rates and you will probably be ok!

    As I say this is a rough costing
  13. Mattecube
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    Mattecube face the sunshine so shadows fall behind you Trusted Member

    Did you meet her this January? How long did you spend together?Do you know enough about her to commit to a long term relationship? Have you visited the Philippines?Perhaps the most difficult question to ask not knowing he circumstances is "has she got history back home?
  14. Mattecube
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    Mattecube face the sunshine so shadows fall behind you Trusted Member

    do tell!
  15. Tizmoi
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    Tizmoi New Member

    Rather do this on a private level. If you are in the same position you are welcome to PM me.
  16. Mattecube
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    Mattecube face the sunshine so shadows fall behind you Trusted Member

    I will pass on it thanks and stick to legitimate methods. Good Luck
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  17. Tizmoi
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    Tizmoi New Member

    Why are you making assumptions to the legality of my methods? My method was entirely legal. Like I said previously, want to discuss it, PM me!
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  19. Mattecube
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    Mattecube face the sunshine so shadows fall behind you Trusted Member

    No thanks.
  20. bigmac
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    first thing you have to do is find out--100% certain--that she is not--or has ever been--married, before you take this any further.
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