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Any help what to do About husband not supporting wife financially in philippines

Discussion in 'Money Matters' started by CjpM, Aug 25, 2021.

  1. CjpM
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    CjpM New Member

    About husband not supporting wife financially in philippines
  2. Druk1
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    Druk1 Well-Known Member

    To be honest none of us can actually help, it's a matter between the couple themselves to sort out, words from strangers on a forum aren't going to solve it, for richer for poorer in the wedding vows mean just that.
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  3. Mattecube
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    Mattecube face the sunshine so shadows fall behind you Trusted Member

    Marry in haste,repent at leisure.
    All to common
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  5. Jim
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    Jim Well-Known Member Trusted Member

    All too common but I met my wife February 2002, got a her a spouse visa July 2002, got married in November 2002 in England. Looking forward to our 19th anniversary in November. Just saying.
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  6. Mattecube
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    Mattecube face the sunshine so shadows fall behind you Trusted Member

    Congratulations on your forth coming anniversary I think over the years the number of just met failures exceed the successes just my opinion though.
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  7. oss
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    If there are children involved then you can look into a REMO a Reciprocal Enforcement Maintenance Order from memory you would have to get a judgement to support the children in the Philippines after which it is possible to have that enforced in the UK. Reciprocal Enforcement of Maintenance Orders (REMOs) | nidirect

    Outside of that I am not sure that you can force a foreign spouse who is not resident in the Philippines to support the Filipino spouse, in the case where the foreign spouse is resident in the Philippines then local law would apply and you could pursue the case in the Philippine courts.
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  8. bigmac
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    not enough information.
    can he support you ? does he have a job ?
    d0es he want to ?
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  9. Mattecube
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    Mattecube face the sunshine so shadows fall behind you Trusted Member

    You would have to hear both sides ok i guess!
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  10. Druk1
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    I know for a fact lots of husbands in the PI don't support their spouses so well, sabong, alcohol, smoking, gambling, all cost cash, can't you just ask him for money?
  11. oss
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    oss Somewhere Staff Member

    One thing to note here, this is a post from a person who has been a member of this site for 8 years, what you can't see is that she is indeed posting from the Philippines.
  12. CjpM
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    My husband is a british national in england
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  13. bigmac
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    where did you get married ? How long ago ? Have you 2 actually lived together -man and wife--for any length of time ? Have you ever applied for a spouse visa to come and settle in Britain ?
  14. Druk1
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    What does he have to say about giving you cash? Are you working? Is he working? Any children? When's the last time you saw each other?
  15. Anon220806
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    This was the lady that pm’d me a couple of days ago. Need to know more. I used to send my wife money each month while we were apart and before she left for the U.K.

    I was saying to BigMac that I was initially disappointed that she used a lot of it to buy a new air conditioner for her mum. But, I guess it did go to a good cause. :D
  16. oss
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    I have had people PM me directly about sensitive issues before now too, if appropriate I try to redirect them to ask their question on the public forum but sometimes you can't and you have to try to be as sensitive to their problem as possible in the context of a PM reply.

    It's been very few occasions where I could not redirect them to the public forum.

    I feel sad for this lady as she is clearly a bit embarrassed to open up publicly with details but it is very hard to help or advise without those details.
  17. ChoiAndJohn
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    There are no legal remedies, no. REMO exists to enforce maintenance orders. Maintenance orders apply following (and usually as part of) a judgement of divorce. If a husband is not supporting his wife whilst they are married, then they need to resolve the matter between themselves.

    I would also point out that if the wife has recently married a foreign husband, then perhaps she should continue to support herself in the way she did before she was married and reset her expectations. Marrying a foreigner does not automatically lead to a life of ease. Perhaps he doesn't have the money to run two households.
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  18. Mattecube
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    Mattecube face the sunshine so shadows fall behind you Trusted Member

    They appear to be married since 2013.
  19. oss
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    I am talking about Child Maintenance and that has nothing to do with divorce, I state "If children are involved".

    In the case of children then a REMO could apply I looked into deliberately having one enforced on me at one time.
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    Nickel Active Member

    Legally for Filipino husband,he can be charge under VAWC Violence Against Women and Children.

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