This is rubbish! Verbal abuses are also classed as domestic violence for women as it causes emotional distress!
You are playing with fire, and you are definitely unwise to continue in this folly. You have no idea what you are getting into, and you appear to trust easily. She’s married and that’s it - go no further. Or your on a hiding to loose a lot of money down the line. There are plenty of women in the Philippines- find someone who is not married.