Verbally abusive husband. Needing advice

I'd rather sulk, really.
But name calling.. it's unacceptable. How could he, how does he think of his wife then if he calls her a bitch or whatever. Oh Lord.

Erica,
Don't come in UK if you have the hesitation. If I were in your position I must have worries and feel unsecured.
Don't let love fool out of you. I know you love your husband and you want to work out your relationship but you are risking your own safety and you know that he has the attitude. Erica feel what the most and decide.
Take care and cheers.

We're only getting one side of things here. How do we know this isn't the woman bad mouthing the man instead of the other way round.

I know from past experience that some woman love to spread the 'abusive husband' stories after they, themselves, have wound him up so much that he's lost his rag.

If I were this guy I'd be wary of getting a visa for someone who spreads stuff about him on internet forums.

It works both ways.

True, but we can still answer based on the information given . It's not a court of law.

True. But we don't know how one sided that information is and how this all came about.

All this concern for the poster's safety seems a bit premature to me, particularly as she hasn't commented on this any further.

Does it really matter ? It's the internet. Most stuff on here is hypothetical, isn't it ?

I guess some people just like an argument.

I am very uncomfortable when someone posts an avatar with their husband's photo in it then proceeds to wash their dirty linen in public.
It is wrong to judge people when only one side of the story is presented.
They both need to solve their problems in private and I am sure we all hope they can do this and move on.

Hi Erica. In sorry for your situation. I don't feel that it's normal or OK for a husband to call his wife names like that. If you're in any doubt I would hold fire on applying for the spouse visa and wait and see what happens. Whilst there are two sides to every story, reading what you wrote at face value would indicate to me that you should be a bit careful and listen to your instincts. I would just give it time if I was you..

Erica hasn't joined in since Saturday

Best of luck to them.

Hope they can sort it out.