I would just like to testify (No I'm not in Church). I met my wife as a pure fluke on the Internet - which I just done for fun in reality, whilst separated from my first wife. (No intention then of anything remotely serious happening). That was back in 2012. I went to visit on more of an adventure type thing 3-4 months later after chatting non stop for 12 weeks. I really enjoyed her company and enjoyed myself overall - found the people friendly and accommodating in the province where she is from. I went back in 2013 - a year later - ended up in Boracay. By this time I was going through a divorce and that was finalized beginning of 2014. I went back in late 2014 and basically went for it - GOT MARRIED AGAIN. I have just spent another 6 weeks there in 2015, got back a month ago. Just found out she is pregnant. To be honest. Couldn't be happier. A smart, fun, good hearted, loving and loyal lady. (and not money mad). Things can turn out genuine. (I proved it). She is a nurse by profession, but told her to have a rest now. Take it day by day, just as we speak daily. All this has happened in just 4 years. Thanks for listening.
Congratulations on your recent news, Jimmy. I suppose uppermost in your thoughts is the need to save money for the possibility of your new family moving to the UK, or will you be going to join them there? I suppose another option is to live in both countries in the year.
YES buddy - all those lol ! I'll play it by ear - but for sure - its her turn to come to me next - I will see how it pans out. I always said at 55 i'd like to retire there. I'm 48 now, and it also depends on my mother who is 78 and I live with her and will no doubt have to look after her....so we'll see. cheers mate x
I don't know your financial situation but it is going to cost a lot of money to be together in the UK. You have seven years until you are 55. Personally I would make a list of what it will cost to assist you in your judgment.
Well put it this way, if she comes here, we dont have a mortgage - the house is paid off. (she can look after my mum). If I go there, I cash in. 50/50 Split with my sister. It all depends on my mother situation of course. Bills have to be paid wherever you are. Thats it really.
Do you want your new child to be British or Filipino? Education comes into it, as well as the health care in the UK. I am a few years older than you and my wife and I decided that we wanted to be together and bring up our children every day so the decision was clear for us; get working and enjoy the family while we can. The Philippines is not an option for us as it stands.
Each case is different. She has other children. As for the nationality thing - its not a big deal to us.
Sounds like it will be very expensive to bring everybody over to the UK. If you have money go for it, then you will be able to be together.
Very nice post. Thanks for sharing. I wish you best of luck with you future plans and hope you'll enjoy life as much as I have after meeting my wife. There are more than a couple of similarities for me in your story. When I met my wife I was happy being single and enjoying my travelling lifestyle. Not conducive to married life so decided we'd relocate from Japan to UK as my parents had some health issues. Retired at 55 but couldn't settle. Wasn't really ready so joined the workforce again. Both my parents are now gone. My mum first then my dad shortly after reaching 90 We are now both retired and living a very different life here in Davao City. Everyday I'm thankful for the love the care and joy my wife brings. She's Filipina, she's from Davao, so she still remains fiesty at times. One in a million.
Hello Micawber. My Fiance is close to Davao. She is in a place called Tuban in between santa cruz and digos. Do you know it? Have you been any further south than Gensan? I believe it isn't safe but Cebu lake down that way looks nice!
Ah thanks for that - likewise - lovely post - it gives me hope ! If I was to ask you 3 pros and cons of living in the Philippines - what would they be? and lastly, do you miss the UK? cheers mate x
Without thinking too deeply, just my reaction:- For me the benefits (Pro's) relate to quality of life. 1. As a foodie I can find an abundance of quality fresh fruit, vegetables and seafoods at low low prices. What joy. 2. It's a beautiful place to live. I can be a tourist whenever I want without being concerned about price and there are more beautiful places to visit than I have time to experience. Yes it can get too hot at times but overall I can enjoy the sunshine, blue skies and the opportunity to be happy enjoying a tropical climate and a natural paradise beauty in a special place in SE Asia. Whether it's mountains, beaches, forests or shopping malls. I don't need to be concerned about transportation costs and availability. I can take taxi's or hire a van and driver and just relax. Domestic flights are affordable. Decent Hotels too. 3. For me personally, my overall quality of life here is so much better than I could have back in the UK I feel my world is my oyster.I'm lucky and to be honest, despite some issues with red-tape,it's very easy to remain her with visa's of one means or another. On the downside (cons)I will say this. 1. I find there is a definite lack of cultural development. For me not something that's easy, or even desirable to adapt to. 2. Healthcare costs could potentially become a dealbreaker and force a return to UK. For the normal day-to-day issues it's cheap. But.............long stays in hospital and/or complex treatments are likely to break the bank for most. 3. Although not something I personally think about about so often, safety can become an issue depending on where you choose to live. Life is cheap here and I'd suggest a calm but aware outlook. I've travelled all over Mindanao and some places here are like the wild west and not be taken lightly by westerners. In general I feel safer and more free than where I lived in UK. But.................................
God blessed you both and may you guys will always be filled with love and happiness everyday ...congratulations .
