I was reading that David Bowie had a direct cremation (no friend no family no service) and it got me thinking of when I go and I came up with three options.I think also that I would like my wife and children to have a nicer place to sit and remember me by and one place my wife and I currently enjoy is the Pier Head in Liverpool so perhaps a bench there! Have others given it any thought?
I thought about it a lot after losing a couple of close family members and a friend in a short space of time. When I go I want to be cremated and have my ashes spread in two places. On the field where I walk my dogs and the other place is Santa pod race track. There both places that have a lot of meaning and value to me. As for the cremation I could count on one hand the people I want there the people who have been there for me through it all. Aside from my mother and father I don't want any other direct family there. That's assuming that I go before my folks do. Dave who wants to live forever ? I know this is slightly off topic but I thought I should post this quote as life and death are tied it helped me when I was grieving for my grandfather. “To do something well is so worthwhile that to die trying to do it better cannot be foolhardy. It would be a waste of life to do nothing with one's ability, for I feel that life is measured in achievement, not in years alone.” Bruce McLaren
I appreciate that your comment was probably meant in jest Dave, but in many ways, I do agree. I do not give time to that line of thought at all. When it gets closer to the time, and assuming that I have time, then I may think about it then. Until such time, I live life to the full and don't let my mind wander to such things. Maybe that is very naive, maybe even a bit selfish, but my wife and I don't have the time to dwell on that matter.
@DavidAlma I agree and as my wife says at certain times(which we wont go into I dont show my age) I just want to give my wife a continued long and happy life but be prepared!
I recently got back from a six week break in Tlaquepaque, Mexico, and was there during the annual four day "Dia de los Muertos" (day of the dead) festival. The city centre was filled with shrines and photos of those who have died, whilst many people had their faces painted at one of the many street stalls. Nice to see a different, very Catholic, viewpoint on death.
Put me in a box and stick it in the ground when this instance of this story ends or burn it, I don't really care apart from the waste of energy and the CO2 generated by the burning option. I don't like the idea of putting everyone I care about through a process of public grief.
It's a long story and too complicated and inappropriate for this thread But on topic, Bowie has my respect for his choice in death.
I have asked my Mrs to either throw my rotting corpse in the nearest river, or bury me somewhere cheap. Anything other than being burnt to a pile of anonymous ashes (after the big bits have been taken out and probably chucked in the bin ) . Oh, and please plant a little flag sticking out of the top of my box... as they used to do in the old days... just in case !
when my first mother in law croaked--i arranged for her to be buried--face down. a few days later--i visited the grave with a pal..he said-- "hey--you left her backside sticking up out of the ground " i replied " yeah--so i can stand by bike up when i come to put flowers on the grave "
