People often fail to read and digest a post in detail, you make good points Keith. I feel quite sad for this lady as something like this does not appear out of the blue after 22 years, I would suspect this lady has not had a happy life for a long time. To have a child working against you is a terribly sad situation.
Yes! KeithAngel and OSS. Because she has been a child abused victim during her youth so she thought she should not repeat story itself. She believed in love and marriage so much to put up all these years with her husband and spoiled her children and give way to whatever they want. And now she realised she made a mistakes on how she brought up her children without any respect at all to her to the extend the daughter abused her verbally and emotionally at some point physically. Now she found herself being alone now and recently almost had a heart attack due to anxiety and depressions. I don't understand how can someone put up with a man who has cold heart and yet she still love him and worry about him how will he be without her if he grow any older, who would take care of him? Love is something she find difficult to forget because she has been lack of love from her own parents in her childhood and now her own family. And on top of it is the racist mother-in-law!
Apologies if I'm missing something here , but I'm not sure who "the clue" is for , and who is perceived not be understanding the situation . From what I have read , it's just several posters trying to offer some helpful advice and support , which is what the OP was seeking .
Yes! Family Justice is dealing with her case now and she was put into a refuge housing for women for now until they can rehouse her. She is entitled for the benefits too. But the thought of being alone is giving her depressions as she is used to have a family but now? she doesn’t have any!
That's a really sad and terrible situation that she is in . Divorces very often come with much pain and suffering , but at least try to make it as least traumatic as possible. The desperate situation, that her spineless husband , and vindictive, and uncaring family , have forced upon her , shows no feelings or compassion towards the girl at all . I can only imagine what she is going through right now , cast adrift in a foreign country with no family for support , and I'm sure many fears about her future . I hope somehow , things will get a bit better soon
I think she is a bit better now that there's another Filipina in that refuge for women who she is friendly with. I don't even know her exact location as they are not allowed to share where they are with friends but she can visit friends anytime. Her case worker is trying to make her busy so she won't be so depress as she has suicidal attempt history in her NHS record.
