She needs to be with him for 5 years so she can acquire the British citizenship. If she opts to be with you now she will need to divorce him go back to the Philippines and start over with a new visa with you. She probably finds that a hassle so that’s why she’s choosing to stay with her husband for 5 years. I’ll refuse to comment more about the matter as I don’t want to judge her or you. All the best
First of all, welcome aboard Based in Rhuddlan..Huh?? I guess Brom27 hit the nail on the head in a way, but I have a nagging feeling there must be another additional little reason.
welcome to the site. i'm certainly not judgemental about your scenario--been there--done that. in fact--when i first met my ( now) filipina wife--she was still married to her filipino husband. she was already here in the UK--on a student visa. she was open and upfront about her reason to find a British man to marry--as a way of getting to live here permanently. before 2012, foreign spouses only had to endure their british husband for 2 years--then the could fly the nest. now its 5 years, having cost her husband about 8 to 10 grand in visa fees, flights etc. in your case--her husband might ask you to reimburse him for the loss. ask yourself--why has she chosen you? what can you offer her ?
It will cost her hubby in the region of £10000 for the full set up to British Citizenship for her. It's a lot of monetise time out to think!
No, 15 years time she will be 45 years old, not as alluring to men by that age, depends upon the individual.
If your both in Newcastle you might want to consider popping to sunderland (yeah, I know, boo, hiss etc) to the Borneo Bistro, a fast food pinoy/Malay type place made famous in the news a number of years ago when a customer released a rat in the premises to avoid paying his incredibly small bill. Keith the owner actually took me into his kitchen to meet the chef who was from zambo (as is his wife).
i think you need to have a long hard talk with your lady. how much do you really know about her ? what does she really want ? has she got any kids back home ? ( many do ) how would you feel if her husband found out about you ?
Sorry I disagree, all the sob stories may come out, the emotions etc etc. I think Gaz needs time on his own and think through it all.
Im going to be blunt here, she is married to an english guy who has/will probably have to pay out the best part of £10.000 by the time his wife gets her ILR, at almost the first opportunity she has jumped into bed with another guy, but it appears she wants to have her cake and eat it by staying with her husband for the next 5 years then leave him to be with you.. Personally that doesnt sit right with me, but i suggest you think long and hard about this, if she can do it once she most certainly can do it again.. Good Luck..
Can I ask a few questions? How long has she been married? Any children? How did she meet her soon to be ex husband? How did you meet? And how long ago? Thank you
