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Discussion in 'Introduce Yourself' started by Stella, Oct 7, 2018.

  1. Stella
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    My name is Stella and hoping someone can answer my concern.

    Me and my british husband got married in 2010 here in the Philippines. My husband went back to Belfast in 2017 to work. I have read in the FCO that UK government doesn't issue certificates of marriages if outside UK. And I have read the posts here that since the marriage is legal, it is still recognized in the UK. My questions are, my husband cheated and now with another woman. If they are planning to get married, how will the British Government know that he is still married? What will be my rights? In law, my husband committed concubinage while the other woman committed adultery. What can I file against them? Since there is no divorce in the Philippines, how can i hasten the processing of annulment? Annulment is too dear and I don't what to do. Or can they get married even if he is still married to me? We have children, do I have to register my children so that he cannot marry the woman he is with now? I'm hurt and I want to give them both a lesson.

    I hope you can give me answers. thank you.
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    hello Stella..welcome to the forum.
    sorry to read about your problem.

    your husband is legally married to you. if he does try to marry someone else--he will have to declare he hasnt gone through a marriage ceremony anywhere else, or that he has been married but can show evidence the marriage has ended--such as divorce or death. so if he delares he has never been married he then becomes a bigamist. in that event he is still married to you.--the second wife has no rights.

    as you know--you cannot divorce him as you were married in the philippines. however--as he is not a filipino--he can divorce you--its called a foreign divorce. but he would have to get your consent. so if you want to teach him a lesson---dont give your consent. unless you want rid of him.
  3. Stella
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    thank you. so before he gets married in the UK, he needs to prove that he's no longer married or never married? however, since our marriage is not registered in the UK, what will be my rights or my kids rights? the only thing i can do here is file for an annulment which is very expensive. so i told the woman, they will both pay for the annulment once my husband get in touch with me. he lets the woman talk to me, what a coward. anyway, if they want to be legally together, they have to pay for the annulment, if not, we are still married. this only happened couple of days ago so im still very emotional. my kids are only 5 and 3 and stripped my kids rights to have a complete family. they are too young to be fatherless. so getting rid of him, im not sure yet but i want my kids to have a complete family. this is so hard.

    with the divorce you mentioned, he can file it there, but what about here? with no annulment, i am still married.

    btw, the woman said they are not cheating because he told her that our marriage ended years ago.
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    in the meantime--dont do anything untill you have got over the shock.
    is your husband supporting you all financially ?
  5. Stella
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    no support. never gave. since 2010, i was the one working. he was able to work here but couldnt stay longer than 5 months. when he left last year, til now that he have a job, still no financial support even if he promised many times.

    with the divorce you mentioned, he can file it there, but what about here? with no annulment, i am still married.
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    if he divorces you--a foreign divorce---you can register it in the philippines. i do not know how long it takes--the cost involved..or even if it means you are legally single again. best you consult with a lawyer over there who specialises in this. i do know from my experience an annulment needs the co-operation of the other person, can take 1 to 3 years and costs from 150,000 pp upwards.

    or--do nothing. if hes not coming back--or maintaining you--then really you have nothing to gain--or lose. sorry if this comes over as a bit insensitive...but i really dont see what else you can do.
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    Wait, you said you have kids (5 and 3) with him? But never supported the kids financially since 2010? I'm confused. Is he the father? Is his name written on the birth certificate?
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    of course he is the father. i never intend to have kids with someone who is not my husband. this is my first marriage.
    when he had a job during my 1st pregnancy, he was able to stay at the company for only 4 months. i kept telling him he needs to get another job right away so we can use the philhealth. i helped in looking for jobs. when we found one, i also applied as part time on the same company to have extra income. 2nd week of august, he stopped going to work, i stopped earlier due to its near my due date. so i had my our 1st child with him no job. yes we were able to use the income he had on the 1st job but thats only how much. after giving birth on september, i applied for jobs on november then got the job, started february of 2014. im not going to sit around with nothing to feed my baby. from 2014 - 2017 he only had 1 job that lasted 2 months? so yeah financially speaking, he did nothing much. so yes, he is the father and name is written on the birth certificate.
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    i understand the process of annulment, my mother went through that because of my cheating father, now its my turn. i dont think i can take back a person who claims he values respect in marriage and family but cheated and lie. i told the woman that our marriage is recognized in the UK even if its not registered and that after i talked to that waste of space husband, i will file for an annulment and they will pay for it. im not going to pay a single cent. if they want to get married then they pay for everything
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    Good luck with finding a lawyer who will work for nothing. Tell your husband to send you money each month so you can save up for the annulment. Good luck with that too. Or tell him to file for divorce himself...oh..and pay maintenance for his kids.
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    Certainly sounds like good riddance.
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    Have you ever talk to the parents/family of your hubby? If yes, ask for their help. They are their grandchildren. If I were you, I would compromise. Give the divorce but ask your hubby to get British passports for your 2 kids first.
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