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Northampton - gay couple

Discussion in 'British Filipino Friend Finder' started by Steve Antipolo, Sep 27, 2017.

  1. Steve Antipolo
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    Steve Antipolo New Member

    My husband (from the Philippines) doesn't think online is the way to go to meet Filipino's locally. His success rate is to have a Filipino cult group try to recruit him when he was at work!

    It would be good if we had English speaking Filipino friends we could meet up with, it doesn't matter whether they are gay or not. I just mention we're a male couple to prevent any awkwardness later!

    For me it's just about mixing up the cultures. We seem to be stuck with him still being about 70% in the Philippines and I think it would be really useful for the pair of us to learn how to convert that into carving out a good life here in the UK.

    We're strongly considering retirement to PH but that's over 13 years away and I don't want us spending each and every day until then planning for the moment whilst ignoring 'here'.
  2. Brom27
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    When I first came here in the UK I don’t have any friends, Filipino or British. Then I met some really good friends here in the forum. They’re all over the UK but I met a few of them.

    Not long ago I found out that there’s quite a few Filipinos in town. I met most of them already and we all became good friends. Now I’m working, I am blessed to work with such great people (British people). Made good friends at work as well.

    I’m in a gay relationship as well but we live in Lincolnshire.
  3. Steve Antipolo
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    Lincolnshire ... we could have popped in for a visit when we did the visa in Sheffield had we not driven the other direction to Alton Towers!

    I do feel it is what it is all about, meeting a broad range of people, really getting to know the country through the people. Dennis only tries to make Filipino friends and then only wants to talk in tagalog so, not exactly a couple thing as I don't speak it ... yet.
  4. Brom27
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    I don’t blame him. To be fair, we Filipinos (most perhaps) like to find Filipino friends here in the UK but you also have to interact with the local people. I go out with my Filipino friends and I go out with my British friends as well. Not sure with others.

    When I met @Stupot10 and his fiancé weeks ago, I and his fiancé we’re talking in our dialect which is Bisaya in front of him but he was not bothered about it as long as we are enjoying ourselves lol. But I do try and speak English so he can join the conversation :D

    Next time if you happen to come round Lincolnshire give me a shout ;)
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  5. Drunken Max
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    When I am with Mica and her friends they often speak tagalog which is fine with me. I just watch the eyes to make sure they're not talking about me. I'm in a same sex relationship btw as well. We are still going through our journey but Mica will be here in May next year before we both go to Phil and then jopefully permentantly in Aug. I, and ultimately we, live in the NW.

    The top tip I was given for meeting Filipinos is find a hospital
  6. Steve Antipolo
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    I think I wasn't bothered about it until he mentioned he only talks in Bisaya when he wants to talk about things which don't concern or involve me. My argument is, if we take that attitude, I'll start talking to people in French of whispering! As I am sure you are aware, we Brits don't always say how we feel. I was raised to believe whispering was rude, talking in a different language when both speak English within earshot is, effectively, the same thing. As I often say to him, when I can actually understand enough to know what you're talking about, will you find another dialect to talk in to make sure I am not involved with what doesn't concern me.

    I do get it, honestly I do. Even if I became fluent in whichever dialect I do become fluent in I might well still talk to a Brit over there in English but the difference is, hubby speaks English, he's not excluded.
  7. Steve Antipolo
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    Lol, I've been three times now and been to the hospital on two occasions, the last time I thought I wasn't getting well quick enough to make my flight home or, for that matter, the expiry of my visit visa waiver!

    With regard to the language there, it's different there, not all the friends and family are fluent in English, it puts them under a lot of pressure to try and communicate using it. I can guarantee someone will always tell me the gist of the conversation and as long as they do that I love it. They're not actively excluding me, they're just speaking their most comfortable dialect in their own home country, I mean 'duh' to that one.

    I've said though, I am not emigrating to PH unless I am fluent or near as matters at least in Tagalog ... that most of the family speak Bisaya is just annoying! Hopefully I'll pick some of that up along the way and we can muddle through!
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  8. Drunken Max
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    Its usually just cbismoso

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