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Discussion in 'Introduce Yourself' started by Geoff, Oct 26, 2017.

  1. Geoff
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    Hello again
    After my ladyfriend visited me in Germany it was obvious that she only wanted me for the money so that one has finished.
    Since then I have been corresponding with a lady in Davao City and she is awaiting her passport and then will apply for a tourist visa to visit me. You may recall I can not go there due to a motorbike accident.
    She has been speaking to others who have applied for a visa and they all say it helps to have a bank account even if you dont have a job and I will be paying for the whole trip. Being more than a little cautious after my last experience, can anyone advise if this is a good idea or not?
    Thank you in advance for your advice.
  2. Mattecube
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    Mattecube face the sunshine so shadows fall behind you Trusted Member

    Not all Filipinos are the same, there are many if not the vast majority that are honest and loving.
    Are you suggesting sending her money to set up a bank account?if you are I would advise not to at this early stage.
    Tread carefully as you are doing.
  3. Geoff
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    That is what she is asking for so she can buy plane tickets etc. My plan was to buy the tickets myself and send to her. I cant believe that if she goes for a tourist visa and shows a bank account with suddenly money in it, that the visa office wont realise that the money has come from me.
  4. Mattecube
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    Mattecube face the sunshine so shadows fall behind you Trusted Member

    She also has to show compelling reasons to return home,which would be what?
    I would not send the money for the tickets to her suggest to her that you will pay for them this end and measure her reaction!
    Very early days,did you contact her first or you She?
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  5. Mattecube
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    Mattecube face the sunshine so shadows fall behind you Trusted Member

    Btw if you bought the tickets on line you could e mail them to her
  6. KeithAngel
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    KeithAngel 2063 Lifetime Member

    This is such a big red light please send me the money instead:)
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  7. Geoff
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    Geoff Member

    Her argument was that if she has money in a bank account she will come back. She has said that it is ok if I dont want her to open an account. I had planned to email her tickets. I do believe her.... but then I believed the last one! She feels that it would help getting the visa if she can show money in the bank. I contacted her first through Christian Filipina site.
  8. KeithAngel
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    KeithAngel 2063 Lifetime Member

    Geoff 99 out of 100 this is a classic scam if you cant go there you will be like a magnet to these come ons it would be a brave lady indeed that would come to the UK to see some one she hadnt met and the chances of a visa are remote to say the least
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  9. DJB
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    I can only say that Christian Filipina is one off the better sites and they do vet all members.

    In this day and age you have no need to send her Airline tickets all she needs is the flight numbers and times when she presents herself at check in.

    I don't think it matters much where the money comes from in her account as long as their is enough there to support her stay. I did the same thing with my Girlfriend and it was not an issue.
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  10. Aromulus
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    Aromulus The Don Staff Member

    red flags.jpg
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  12. Mattecube
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    Mattecube face the sunshine so shadows fall behind you Trusted Member

    Sounds like a scam!
    Why a Filipino?
    Why not look over here in the Christian community?
  13. Drunken Max
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    Drunken Max Well-Known Member Trusted Member

    I am a leap before I look type of person but draw the line at sending vast amounts of money. I know lots of nice single filippino ladies in Cayman, all working and single. They just never shut up though.
  14. Aromulus
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    The attempted scam could not be any more blatant than this........

    I am surprised she hasn't mentioned the hole in the roof, the poorly parents, the siebling needing medicines and costant care 24/7, her being robbed or scammed by a neighbour, the family carabao or baboy going into labour and needing a very costly epidural............
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  15. OTT
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    It's a difficult one for you as you can't travel there . Most people's rule is never to send money to someone that you have never met . You are just sending money for her to open a bank account , as she / you won't need to buy flight tickets until her visa is approved .
    Tourist visas are not easy to get unless she has very strong reasons to return after her visit .( good job, property/investments , dependants etc )
    So, if her application is denied , you don't have a visitor or your money .
    It's your decision , but it's not without big risk .
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  16. bigmac
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    bigmac Well-Known Member Trusted Member

    a cautionary tale--but true nonthe less.

    a female friend of mine---her ex husband died a couple of weeks ago. she is sorting out his affairs. she couldnt undestandwhy he was flat broke.. he didnt work through a long term disability.

    turns out he had given £8000 to some woman he had " met" on an internet dating site. never met in person though.

    if i were in your position @Geoff, when chatting online--just mention you are a pensioner--and as such have no money in the bank--and barely manage on your pension.

    if the other person is still chatting to you--just say she would be very welcome to come for a visit--if she can get a holiday from her job, afford the visa fee and the air fare, and arrange for someone to look after her kids.
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  17. graham59
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    Another lonely bloke who thinks the Philippines is some sort of lending library of young women ?

    If such people bothered to find out something about the Filipino culture, they would soon come to realise how important home and family are to the average Filipino... as well as how very different their culture and way of thinking is to ours. Would most 'reasonable' people not wish to be involved with their partner's family ... to actually MEET them ? How about showing enough interest and consideration to actually go and SET FOOT in the home territory of your love interest ?

    If you have no wish to visit the Philippines, or are unable to do so, then quite honestly I would question your motives. It all sounds pretty selfish to me, no matter how many air tickets you're going to stump up for.

    You may also ponder over WHY the Philippines authorities make it less than simple for their citizens (especially young female ones) to join a departing international flight.
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  18. DJB
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    DJB Active Member

    Er this guy has suffered a motorcycle accident and can not travel.
  19. bigmac
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    bigmac Well-Known Member Trusted Member

    just ignore the previous post @Geoff--just Graham59 giving us the benefit of his in depth knowledge of filipino life. which is extensive. unfortunately his manners let him down.
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  20. Dave_E
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    Dave_E Well-Known Member Trusted Member

    I agree with @graham59 , blunt and straight to the point, please don't ignore his advice @Geoff .
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