Things to bring and what not to bring, when coming to Britain from the Philippines

Before coming to UK I'd visit a dentist, get a foot spa & hair treatment and get a body massage and body scrub. I believe everything is expensive in UK. Wish I'd have the time I need. I deserve it after all the stress the visa application.

Well, when you finally reach the UK and marry you will be able to find yourself a nice little job that will enable you to pay for all those little luxuries

Only last week I had to lend my wife £90 for a dentist check up, dentists are very expensive here compared with the Philippines.

you had to lend your wife £90? Is that a turn of phrase or do you expect her to repay you from her income?

A few weeks before mine came over...she broke her top set of gnashers...so I told her to get a new set over there. Cost me £200.....about 10% of the UK cost.

Opening a bottle of Red Horse with her teeth?

coca cola actually--as a kid.

Already paid back into my account, I have a strict lending policy where Filipinos are concerned.

To be honest I let her off on this occasion and told her to change from a 3 month check up to 6

Well. Everyone runs their lives according to their own values and so forth, so please don't take the following remarks as being a critique - but frankly I'm a little surprised.

This isn't something that I have personally ever done with my wife. I've always treated any household income as a completely joint matter.

I wonder - how many other members have a 'lending policy' in place with their wives - insist that money is 'paid back' and so forth? Is this more common than I think it is?

All the monetary policies in my household were negotiated and agreed before my wife even came to the UK because like most couples if there is any falling out it will be over money. I like to have a pretty firm agreement so there are no arguments relating to money, the agreement works well for us.

She gives me a set sum every month and can do whatever she likes with the salary she has left (most recent paying for her mum to go to the US for a month), she also pays for the groceries, I pay the major outgoings and stick a few grand in the bank every month and everyone is happy

I wouldn't be happy if my wife were to only 'lend' me £90 for a dental appointment on the understanding that I would pay it back. Indeed, I would vertically take off and hit the roof. You must have a very tolerant wife!

We dont have a policy as such,but I pay my salary into the bank and she pays hers into her account I pay the bills and food and household saving, she sends money to her girls and is saving for future visa costs and 2 flights for us in Jan 2017 back to RP.
She also likes to surprise me with little treats like a bottle of Chilean red, as for paying money back not arisen yet and wont.

We all have to find a system that works for us and more importantly one that works and are both happy with.

For sure.

Hopefully you will have some money left over for the above, well deserved items, after the visa, relocation and wedding costs that are coming up.. .

in our case--i funded everything as regards her divorce and annulment--TB medical treatment---settlement visa application--flight--wedding--FLR fee inc priority and IHS surcharge. plus a regular monthly allowance when she was in the filis.

she has said she will pay me back. lol.

i regard it as an investment in our future: i really believe she will look after me in my old age.

now she is working--full time with lots of overtime--her salary is wayyy more than my pension. she contributes significantly to our household budget. she has her own bank a/c--i have mine.

i need to sort out my will--again. my last will was nullified when we got married--but at the moment if i do pop my clogs she is automatically well provided for.

Remember that December is coming soon and we have 13th month pay here. The above aren't too expensive. Not that I'd choose a luxurious salon.

Definitely would look for a job soon after the wedding. There's a lot of shopping I need for me and my son so money would be tight. And I wouldn't want to spend my soon-to-be-husband's money for luxury. Not unless he would ask me to accompany him in those. lol

Its good of you to say that you wouldn't spend your husbands money on luxuries, I'm sure he will appreciate that and buy you some luxury items any way.

I'd feel bad to use his money for unnecessary things knowing that he has spent a lot for the visa and the wedding while I can only pay back by being a good wife.

But I like what you said in the last sentence.