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Discussion in 'Migrating to Britain' started by colin2, Mar 10, 2022.

  1. Druk1
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    Druk1 Well-Known Member

    Can you still get the 20 minute flights down from cebu?
  2. oss
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    oss Somewhere Staff Member

    You need to be aware of the dangers of co-habiting with a woman who is not annulled, if you chose to go there and live with her in the Philippines you are technically committing adultery and you are wide open to being exploited by the husband once he finds out, they are well aware that they can get both you and her jailed and then attempt to bargain with you for a financial settlement in order to get you out of jail and allow you out of the country.

    I think it is a statutory seven year sentence.

    This is one chap who had a horrendous time, the couple got out of the country eventually and are now settled in the UK.

    David Scott BBC NEWS | England | Wiltshire | 'Adulterous' couple on the run

    I think he actually joined here once upon a time but he is not currently a member.

    This is an old thread on their story David Scott on Banged up Abroad Premier next week Tuesday 9 PM on Nat Geo | British Filipino (british-filipino.com)
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  3. Mattecube
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    Mattecube face the sunshine so shadows fall behind you Trusted Member

    You could stay there but do not stay with her, and yes she could visit the UK for up to 6 months subject to getting a visit visa. As @oss states if you are seen to be living together then your opening a potential can of worms.
    I would keep a good arms length or more away from heavy involvement with a married women in the Philippines but no harm in friendship and do it well away from her hometown.
  4. colin2
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    colin2 New Member

    OMG is that even possible . The whole thing seems impossible
  5. colin2
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    colin2 New Member

    all sounds surreal and ridiculous. So backward when it comes to marital laws. Religious influences of course when it comes to laws. Religion was invented in the first place as a control system. Guilt their biggest tool to subdue you. Decronian law system it sounds like. Everything seems against you even trying to do the right thing
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  6. aposhark
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    aposhark Well-Known Member Lifetime Member

    There are so many red flags for you and it does look extremely difficult but nothing is impossible if you really love her and have deep pockets.
    I met my future wife in the Philippines and we married there.
    She was single and hadn't been married before and she didn't have children from a previous relationship.
    If she had children and a previous husband over there, I would have run a mile.

    Best of luck in your decision.
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  7. colin2
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    colin2 New Member

    . Thank you. But you can't switch and swop your feelings for a woman. I know there are millions over there and many opportunities. Fine if you are going there for fun and to party. I can't switch off my.love for my girl.

    It's becoming apparent the only way is for me to live there and rust it. The ex husband isn't interested in his ex wife and has another life there now. But I imagine some will say he could get involved if he hears about it and sees an opportunity.

    Thank everyone for their advice on here.
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  8. bigmac
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    He isnt her ex!

    I was very much like you 11 years back. ...and the advice i was given then..on a different forum..was never get involved with a married filipina . I can see why..with hindsight.
  9. Druk1
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    In truth there are western guys living with and in relationships with separated women in the Philippines, I know a few and I have been that guy when I was much younger, go over, rent a place, and get a feel for the situation, fortune favours the brave, if you want something in life you have to go for it, that's the truth of the matter,maayong swerte :like:
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  10. Mattecube
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    Mattecube face the sunshine so shadows fall behind you Trusted Member

    Why not consider meeting in a neutral country where Filipino passports do not need a visa or can get one on entry.
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  11. Druk1
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    Thailand, fantastic country, great weather, lots of Pinoys live there, and filipino tourists love it :like:
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  12. aposhark
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    Yes, my wife and I prefer Thai food to Filipino food FWIW.
    She also bought sexy underwear back in 2009 in Bangkok when she couldn't find any in Cebu City or Manila in the time we had to look.
    I gather the Filipino lingerie shops sell a lot more now.
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  13. aposhark
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    aposhark Well-Known Member Lifetime Member

    "Buena suerte" in Spanish (Good Luck) :like:
    colin2 will need it :erm:
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  14. Druk1
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    Most people do to be honest ;)
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  15. Mystica
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    There’s now divorce in the Philippines just like in Thailand which is faster and cheaper than annulment. So no need to go through an annulment.

    https://www.loc.gov/item/global-leg...mmittee-referred-to-house-plenary-for-debate/
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  16. Mystica
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    Mystica Active Member

    Yes! Me too! It’s just healthier and tastier! ;)
  17. Druk1
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    Druk1 Well-Known Member

    Better prepared, better presented, all round far better food.
  18. Jim
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    Jim Well-Known Member Trusted Member

    Hello Colin, I live near Dumaguete (Bacong). Lot's of expats live here and yes it's a small City which suits me. Some very good advice on here, I would take the advice very seriously Filipinos are opportunist and you could end up in bother, not good at all over here. Married a Filipina almost 20 years ago back in England, and yes she was single and no children. We lived in England for 12 years but we visited PH every two years for extended holidays and building a house, then I retired here for over 5 years.
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  19. Mattecube
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    Mattecube face the sunshine so shadows fall behind you Trusted Member

    Have you read the link including the title?

    See my post 6 on this thread!

    no divorce law as yet between 2 Filipinos in the Philippines but it is moving forward with further bill readings
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  20. aposhark
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    From reading the link you quoted, Mystica, it appears that divorce in the Philippines has not yet been put into law over there.

    Interestingly, the paragraph "Exceptions Regarding Divorce" in
    https://www.hg.org/legal-articles/acknowledgment-of-divorce-in-the-philippines-20090
    indicates that divorce can take place if the spouse from another country seeks it in their own home country.

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