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When a foreigner marries a Filipina, he looks after the whole family

Discussion in 'Life in the Philippines' started by CatchFriday, Mar 2, 2021.

  1. bigmac
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    bigmac Well-Known Member Trusted Member

    When we got engaged at christmas 2013 here in the UK while she was here with a visit visa--my fiancee asked if i could help her out with an allowance. She then returned to the Philis. I paid a quarter of my pension into her bank account each month. It took far longer than anticipated until she got a fiancee visa.

    She came over for good in feb 2016. As soon as she got her first BRP--june 2016 she started work--and sent money home to support her kids each month. Their father is a useless lazy sod who lives nearby to them with his sister--and pays them nothing. I suspect some of what my wife sends home ends up on his dinner plate. But thats none of my business--and i couldnt care less.

    Now--5 years on and her ILR coming up--she has a good job and earns more than i ever have. I have my pension which pays all the household overheads--and my wife funds our lifestyle. She sends back more than twice what she did at the beginning. My only concern is her daughter--now 23 and finished university. Doesnt seem too keen to get out there and earn a living. Just what happens when she gets her own idle sponger and kids start coming along ? More from her mum each month i suppose?
  2. CatchFriday
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    CatchFriday British Expat living in Alicante, Spain

    what was her degree in?
  3. Aromulus
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    Aromulus The Don Staff Member

    Ultimatum..
    This is the last lot of money I send........... Move on get a job.
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  4. CatchFriday
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    CatchFriday British Expat living in Alicante, Spain

    Unfortunately it doesn't work......
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  5. ChoiAndJohn
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    ChoiAndJohn Well-Known Member Trusted Member

    Sure it does. I've been there and done that. Just send less allowance to the parents so they can't give it to the son and make it clear you're not funding layabouts. And I seriously would not be paying for a cleaner. Let them fund it from their allowance. A cleaner is cheap anyways. Once he gets hungry enough he will work.
    I've had exactly the same situation with a sister who wasn't working. She asked for money for food. Didn't send a penny. She got a job.
  6. bigmac
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    bigmac Well-Known Member Trusted Member

    civil engineering. Unfortunately she failed the review. Been waiting to take it again...Philippines time + covid = man~ana x forever.
  7. CatchFriday
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    CatchFriday British Expat living in Alicante, Spain

    I recall another life, wherein I put a woman through social work training - she failed the board exam and then didn't re sit - the problem with Filipinos is the loss of pride in failure - no backbone to take it again
  8. bigmac
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    bigmac Well-Known Member Trusted Member

    especially went sat at home watching tv all day--waiting for mums next allowance to arrive.
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  9. Druk1
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    Druk1 Well-Known Member

    There's a dependancy culture in the Philippines, loads of people sit on their fat arses waiting for those monthly remittances :D easiest way to avoid it?Marry into a family with cash.
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  10. Druk1
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    Druk1 Well-Known Member

    Really? What office did she hold? No need to send any cash back then, I know one or two through family and they are loaded, really minted,the cash trickles back to their family, nepotism is the first word in the average pinoy politicians dictionary.
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  11. Druk1
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    Druk1 Well-Known Member

    August I think, is she currently doing her online review?
  12. CatchFriday
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    CatchFriday British Expat living in Alicante, Spain

    Don't be ridiculous it's lunch time and you must have had too many beers.
  13. CatchFriday
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    CatchFriday British Expat living in Alicante, Spain

    fingers crossed ;)
  14. CatchFriday
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    CatchFriday British Expat living in Alicante, Spain

    If I have the money of course I would help, it does appear to me that a food business might support him for a few years.......but I am convinced that no expat can make any money in the Philippines.
  15. Druk1
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    Druk1 Well-Known Member

    I never touch alcohol :)
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  16. CatchFriday
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    CatchFriday British Expat living in Alicante, Spain

    "Loose lips sink ships"
  17. Druk1
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    Druk1 Well-Known Member

    Yup, tongue lubricant :ninja:
  18. bigmac
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    bigmac Well-Known Member Trusted Member

    and what online review might that be ?
  19. Druk1
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    Druk1 Well-Known Member

    For the board exam, online reviews at the moment, board exams expected in August, isn't that how it goes?
  20. bigmac
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    bigmac Well-Known Member Trusted Member

    you tell me.

    do you remember the original Doctor film--with bogarde and ustinov ? one of the medical students kept failing each year ?

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