So -- my beloved Kris @inaroiles informs me that it is common practice for the wife / partner in the Philippines to withdraw the option of jerjer in circumstances where she is dissatisfied with his employment status or willingness to work. Not sure why she told me this - warning shot across the bow perhaps?! I'm sure some of our regular contributors will have their take on this! P.S. Good job I'm generally a hard-working chap!
If that's indeed a shot across the bows, it's not one that I personally feel that you should meekly accept. Who does your other half feels wears the trousers in your relationship? Work hard and make it clear what your expectations are. That's my view.
I probably wouldn't react quite as strongly as some of the replies, but I wouldn't be happy at hearing those words. Definitely needs discussing, not glossed over.
I deliberately posted this in the "Humour" section because the comment wasn't made seriously -- it was said in jest. IT WAS A JOKE! For what it's worth I can well imagine why a woman --- stressed with worrying about paying the bills and feeding their kids - might be disinclined to accept the advances of her hubby or partner. More so if his indolence and idleness was deliberate rather than because of circumstances beyond his control e.g. through redundancy or lack of employment opportunities. Again, I never buy the "who wears the trousers" nonsense. A relationship is a partnership of equals or it is nothing - in my book anyhow. Both parties contribute what they can and the notion that the man has dominance is outdated and sexist BS. Finally, there are no such things as conjugal rights....it suggests that one party has dominion over the other and can demand sex irrespective of the views of their partner. There is a name for such actions. G
I'm guessing it happens frequently in the Philippines where services (not just sex) are withdrawn because the husband has not been looking after the family as they should, the men there are renowned at playing silly buggers in one way or another. In the house I have the veto over any major decisions, my wife is extremely intelligent but I am a lot smarter than her
Oh yes, my love -- this forum is a wonderful source of information - and most "interesting" attitudes! Gergery P.S. I promise to work hard every day to get my reward in the evening. A chance to sit on the couch with my mahal watching Judge Judy re-runs!
I assume you mean "smarter" to mean "judgement" in this context Tim - otherwise it could be said that you're "blowing your own trumpet" a tad - as "a lot smarter" could also infer much greater intelligence than your already "extremely intelligent" good lady - which of course may very well be true! Personally, although I'm by no means a dullard, I prefer to hide my light under a bushel - although sometimes my halo slips! In all seriousness whatever works for you and your beloved is fine by me - and that goes for the other members here as well. GerGery
To me, the whole concept of sex being something that the man wants and the woman lets him have is something that is beyond me. Why would I want to have sex with a woman who didn't particularly want it with me? If I had a wife/girlfriend who only 'let me' have sex when I behaved as some kind of man-only treat, and clearly wasn't particularly interesting it is for any other reason than to get me to behave myself, I suspect she'd be a bit rubbish at sex anyway and I'd have little interest in having sex in her because she obviously didn't enjoy it for her own sake. Or something like that.