back to being single again

... yes I am

.... unfortunately it didn't work out between me and the scotsman. I think LDR's got a toll on us both. I'm sad about what happened. I was sooo sure of him... but I think its not meant to be...its just I don't know how to bounce back because my family met him already and expects lots from us... oh well...

how come you guys made it.. is there a secret recipe for LDR's to work out?

LDR is a strange situation, where one knows that is not alone but can feel lonely and abandoned.

For it to be successful, it needs nurturing with lots and lots of commitment and self sacrifice. The main problems are the lack of patience,
the fear of the unknown, money worries, general doubts about feelings and a few other things which cowards find excuses for.

But basically it is down to real commitment.

I am so sorry that it did happen to you, and you may find difficult explaining to your family the reason or reasons why the break occurred.
But looking at it from the opposite angle, you may have come out lucky, because the relationship was not as solid as it should have been, from his point of view.
And by breaking now, saved you from even more pain further down the line.

Try to cheer up, maybe it wasn't meant to happen with him, and your Mr. RIGHT is just around the corner.

you guys made me cry again! grrr!!! I haven't been crying for a long time now... I am trying to suppress it because I don't want my family and my friends to see that I am on that difficult stage... my family still doesn't know the break up. I dont know how to tell them. What's worse is, whenever they ask me about him, the visa prep and our relationship, I tend to lie that we are still okay... I dont know how to tell them. Thats why I just leave or stay in my room to avoid questions... I don't know how long am I going to lie to them its really a difficult time for me

But I am getting by slowly... thank you po sir alan and sir dom

You don't need to lie to your family.

They will there for you, if you take the troule of explaining what happened, they will help you through this bad experience with their love and compassion and understanding.

Get out of your room, and meet people, don't become a prisoner in a prison of your own making. Mix with your family members, and you will see that the hurt slowly will go and you will start to move on with life.

Funny enough I was having thoughts about you PATCH..............

Meet Yuna........................

Yuna meet PATCH................

thanks guys....

I think Patch and I can attest that finally meeting the gf/bf from other country is not the end-all and be-all of LDR's its MORE than that... I am learning loads from this experience. It made me more wiser... with regards to the family issue, I will tell them my situation soon but I know on my next relationship, they wont be as much excited and interested anymore. They were very proud of my (ex) bf and me and this break up will get them frustrated, sad and disappointed for sure...

Really sad news Majah, so sorry for you but try to be strong and look to the future.

thanks Micawber and oss I am trying to move on and bounce back... and I will

Hi Tom (hmmm... you're name reminds me of him LOL!) I know that I will okay soon. I bounce back easily and I've grown a bit smarter and wiser from this ...

I know that everything will be okay soon... I will be healed soon and hope to be 'found' finally by someone nice and worthy of me

that's a great quote Tom! thanks for that nah... no problems on calling you 'Tom'

Hi Majah,

Sorry to hear about your break up, I meant to write this earlier but have been busy with a Christening all day.

Believe me I know how difficult a long term relationship is. For the most part it is almost like being single, being so far away from Joy, though often I see something or someone that instantly sends me daydreaming about her. Though the long distance does prove difficult and I have often felt lonely when we cannot talk or meet online for days or even a week or more at a time.

I know that no matter what gets said in this thread you won't feel better from words from well meaning friends and various people online, but please try to think positive. I am sure your family will comfort you and soon you will feel better, a broken heart is healed with the support of friends around you and your loved ones. It will heal and it does get better!

Now, we have not yet met in person but I know from your pictures that you are a beautiful woman and I recall comments from here, the old hangout and Facebook from various people who have met you in person commenting on how pretty you are! You are also well educated, cultured (your classical music skills) and a very nice person. You are a great catch for any man and I think this split is Tom's loss more than yours:grouphug:

Now, ego boosting aside...

Again, sorry to hear this bad news. though I suspect soon as word gets out that you are single again a few potential suitors might make themselves known