our age gap is over thirty years and her mum and dad love me and her dad is fifteen years younger than her mum no one has problem with age
Nothing's wrong with it, at least in my mind. But there are others who *drops voice to a whisper* think it's inappropriate, especially here in the PH. Why they think that way is crazy to me. Give me the boyfriend over any other guy my age ANYTIME.
Good for you, frank! I'm happy that my parents don't have any issue with the age gap (I know my friends' parents would have one or two objections about it).
maybe your friends parents are jealous when i was in Estancia my girlfriends friends asked me if i had friends who want phill girl and could i find them one. i went market one day on my own and bought some fruit at stall .The woman asked me if i wanted girlfriend her sister she was 18 not a big problem in Philippines but maybe would be different in uk.
That's good, at least your family is understanding because not all families are whether you are from the PH, UK or anywhere else. Not really sure with you and your circle but a lot of people I know do raise eyebrows if the age gap is considerably big. Never rude but then word do gets around. I also noticed the same thing, maybe to a lesser degree with our friends in the UK.
I don't think it's jealousy but more of a concern on how 2 people with such a huge age gap would relate to each other. Or what other people would think as Filipinos take what other people think of them seriously. LOL your experiences are good but don't you ask yourself why those things happen? They must have some sort of intention...
We've got a large age gap. It's really no big deal. There's never been anything that has arisen in any shape or form that has had anything to do with our ages. Some people just analyse things far too much. As for total stranger in the Philippines going up to a foreigner and trying to get them to go out with their sister. Well dodgy!!
Its funny, when I first mention to someone who doesn't know me that I have a Filipina girlfriend they always ask two questions, "how old is she"? and "did you meet her on the internet"? When I had a Brazilian girlfriend sometime back I was never asked these kind of questions. The problem with having a huge age gap in a relationship is people taking the mickey behind your back, that's something that I personally couldn't cope with, there is no way on this earth I am walking down the street with a girlfriend who is young enough to be my daughter.
There was a time I used to walk around in pink and black trousers, have my hair caked in hairspray and wearing black eyeliner. Having a wife young enough to be my daughter is the least of my worries.
I'm trying to think which trend that was, I was a 70s teddy boy (draped jacket and beetle crushers), smoothy (two toned trousers and Ben Sherman), skinhead (Doc Martens and braces) and finally someone who doesn't follow any fashion. Its the pink and black trousers that I cant put to any bygone fashion but I can see why walking down the road with a girl young enough to be your daughter wouldn't trouble you after wearing that outfit
Ah yeah, had to go to Mr Google and ask for a video, the band reminded a little of the Sweet. I was wondering as I researched Hanoi Rocks if the Philippines had the same sort of fashions we had back then when we were growing up. They seem a little straight laced there to go in for the fashions we followed in the 70s and 80s. In fact I think its true to say that I haven't seen any kind of fashion trends in the Phils.
Yeah. Apparently my rather colourful past life makes me 'bugoy'. In terms of age, I see nothing that causes issues. We like the same stuff and she's still old enough to be the mother of my oldest kid. It's fine by me, and she don't care either. Let's see how she likes it in 30 years time, though, when she's changing my nappies
What's bugoy? Age gap is something that people have to agree to disagree. It's a personal preference, as long as they are in a genuine and loving relationship then fine by me. It's just not me and I like younger guys rawr. LOL I date a guy who was 12 years older when I was younger and it didn't work because we weren't in the same page in life.
Really? You don't know that word? How come you don't know that word? It means I'm a naughty boy. I'm a rebel. Because I'm bad, I'm bad, I'm really really, bad. You know it - whooo. You know it.... whooo. Who's baaaaaaaaaaaaaaaad. That's me!
Why would people with an age gap not relate to each other? We've got an age gap and we relate just fine, thank you. Better than I've related to any one of my other partners, regardless of what age they were. Hence the reason for being married to each other. Let's face it. You could put the "relate to each other" criteria to many different things. Different race, different nationality, different culture, different economic background, different anything really. Even different sex if you want. How can two people of a different sex relate to each other as they must have different life experiences? Maybe you had a relationship with someone 12 years older than you that didn't work. That's not something to judge all relationships on. I've had relationships with people a similar age to me that didn't work. It doesn't mean relationships between people of similar age can be a problem. Me and my wife fail on all those criteria set above. We are different age, race, nationality, culture and economic background. Also, last time I looked, we were a different sex too. But we like the same stuff, and spend pretty much all our time together when we're not working. We enjoy the same music, watching the same sports and watching the same films. We share a sense of humour. We enjoy being rude and abusive to each other. It's a good relationship. What's not to relate? In the end it's down to individuals and who you gel with. I would never set a precondition on that. If I had I wouldn't be who I am with now, and I actually quite like it.
Graham, I don't know if you know but the word "naughty" has a specific connotation in the Philippines ... and it doesn't mean "rebellious"!
Maharag, no i have never heard that word and I asked around people I know and they are clueless too. Baduy, Budoy.. I have heard of those but never bugoy. It's prolly one of those colloquial words that I do not know. And as with the relate with each other comment, it is a comment that people would usually say here in the Philippines if you get into a relationship with someone much much older. It's not just that but a lot of other negative things that I dare not say here as I might strike a cord. Whether you or I believe it, it is something out there that people say and I'm just putting it out here. Plus I hope you also read my comment above that it's not just for me but as long as people are in a genuine and loving relationship, I have nothing against them.
