Hi, I'm Nick from Scotland, I'm 35, recently separated and thought maybe I should find a Filipina wife. I've been to Cebu few years ago for a holiday and loved it. I joined Filipino Cupid the other night just out of curiosity and one of the very first woman I messaged with similar interests, I've been chatting to her on Whatsapp for the past 4 days now, morning and evening and we get on very well. I'm looking for a bit of advice on how to proceed, should I arrange to visit her soon, I only been messaging her as I don't like to message lots at one time although I have lots of messages. I told her this and she is happy talking back to me. I would like to eventually bring her back to live here in Scotland, I know all about the visa rules and have done tons of research on this, on filipina's and what to watch out for etc. Yes so I have connected with this 21 year old Cebu lady over the past few days and I wondering what to do about it lol.
Hello and Robbie Filipinas can be very beautiful with big hearts, too. "Slow down my beating heart!". Only you know what you feel, take a trip to see her and try to be observant. We can all be blinded by love and by beauty; our decision-making can be suspect. Take time to get to know her and watch out for any scams. Is she single? Does she have kids? Is she working and where? If she asks you for money, scarper off. Try to keep your feet on the grouund but have fun. Go to an internet cafe or use your laptop to ask questions here if you want. Many of us, me included, have married Filipinas and we will try to be helpful if you need more advice What part of Cebu does she live? Flights are ridiculously expensive at the moment compared to pre-pandemic days.
Thank you for the reply, you seem to be the expert on here, on the many posts I've read I see 'You can't smell the coffee if there's no coffee crop' Yes she is single, never been married and has no kids. She said she was doing college before pandemic but now is not working and stays at home. Her parents are working, father is an electrician and mother is document sorter. She is in Cebu city on the outskirts. She has never mentioned money or anything and she was just checking the filipina cupid to see what is there. She also said she didn't tell her parents she uses these dating apps. In the past few days we have just been talking, laughing random things and about our lives. I'm thinking maybe to try and visit next month for 10 days but I don't want to waste my time or money. I can afford as self employed.
I am far from being an expert, Robbie, my knowledge of present day best practises to facilitate visas and such-like is sadly lacking as my route through that minefield is long gone. I have Brit-Fil children now and they have become my main focus these days. @Mattecube and others keep their eyes and ears on those topics these days. Soon...
Hi and welcome. You say in your last sentence “ what to do about it” and that’s the key point. Enjoy the time getting to know her on line as much as you can I always say it’s like having a modern day pen pal. If you take the holiday which should be great fun and a good time to get to know her better, set the stall out with her very clearly with her before you go. You don’t want her friends and family tagging along everywhere you go you want to use your time together to get to know her Undoubtedly you will be expected to meet her parents and it’s common to take a small amount of gifts with you.don’t be over generous! Enjoy the time and take your time if played out right it should be a wonderful experience for you both!
Hi and welcome to the site, I like most regulars on this site have gone down the route that you are just beginning, Heed the advice that you are given by other posters but at the end of the day the decisions that you make are your own, we (my wife and I) are now almost at our 4th year on the visa route. The first time I visited the Philippines i had planned on meeting three ladies, my thoughts behind that were that its a long way to go to find that you don't really have much in common, I got to number 2 the 3rd I had to message that I would not be coming, as it turns out the 2nd one had baggage which I did'nt find out until I got back, anyways good luck to you and one thing is for sure if/when you do go to the Philippines you will enjoy yourself for sure, the best part of the Philippines IMO are the people.
