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Loneliness of the LDR

Discussion in 'Introduce Yourself' started by ian136, Jul 5, 2017.

  1. ian136
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    ian136 New Member

    Hi guys
    Was just trying to get info about a visit visa for my fiancé and stumbled across this site.
    I met my fiancé online nearly 3 years ago and have been to visit her 8 times now. We tried for a visit visa in 2016 but got refused, I thought her having 2 kids from a previous relationship would show reason enough for her to return but after reading posts here I feel it may have had the opposite effect. I want to apply again but something from the first refusal letter concerned me. You see I was married before to a filipina who I met in the Middle East and she came here permanently to live on a visa she got because of our marriage and now I'm worried this may have flagged up on my now fiances application.
    Anyone know of a similar situation happening.
    I'm divorced now from my wife but I'm worried this may have a negative impact on my fiancé applying.
  2. Brom27
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    Brom27 Well-Known Member Trusted Member

    Hi welcome to the forum.

    What was the reason of their refusal to your fiances visit visa? No ties in the Philippines?

    With regards to you being married previously if you are already divorced then there shouldn't be a problem.
  3. ian136
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    ian136 New Member

    Yes that was one of the reasons brom, it's difficult because the refusal really upset her and I don't want to put her through it all again if there is no chance of success.
  4. Brom27
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    Brom27 Well-Known Member Trusted Member

    It's quite tricky to get a visit visa especially if you don't have ties in the Philippines like a work, a property or business that you could go back to.

    Why don't you apply for fiancé visa (marriage settlement visa)?
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  5. ian136
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    ian136 New Member

    Yes that was another reason for the refusal, maybe your right maybe the marriage visa is the road to go down, just seems so unfair that for so many this is the only avenue they can pursue. Thanks for the advice though
  6. DavidAlma
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    DavidAlma Well-Known Member

    Does she have any stamps in her passport of previous overseas trips? That would help convince them that she is not a flight risk. It all comes down to convincing them that she will not overstay and will leave at the end of the visa. As Glenn says, it is a big help if she has a job, or a business etc that will show that she has ties to Philippines and will return. Agreed, do not use her children as a reason, will have negative effect I think. Wish you all the best sorting out a visa for her.
  7. Mattecube
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    Mattecube face the sunshine so shadows fall behind you Trusted Member

    How long where you married for and what year did you divorce?


    I would think long and hard about a marriage visa it's costly to say the least.

    The reason I ask the question about your divorce and marriage, and the reason I suggest you think long on hard on your next step is this:- ( by the way others may disagree with me but I will raise the point)

    The ECO maybe and I say maybe looking at married to a Fillipino previously now wants to bring another Filipino over hmmmm do i smell a rat?
    Just a view to consider

    I wish you both well which ever path you take.
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  8. bigmac
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    bigmac Well-Known Member Trusted Member

    she has 2 kids from a previous relationship--? so--was she ever married ?
  9. ian136
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    ian136 New Member

    Yes mattercube that was my concern also as in the refusal letter while not mentioning it directly it did kind of indicate that about my suitability. Divorce was over 5 years ago by the way.
  10. ian136
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    ian136 New Member

    No never married Bigmac, if she had been it would have made life even more
    Complicated I know
  11. bigmac
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    bigmac Well-Known Member Trusted Member

    and even more expensive !
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  12. ian136
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    ian136 New Member

    No previous stamps David, this was suggested by a few friends over there maybe a few trips to Singapore or Hong Kong might help. She doesn't have a job currently as she's doing a full time carer course. She took this as there are still some Tier 4 visas being issued to care homes and so this was another possibility for us
  13. Mattecube
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    Mattecube face the sunshine so shadows fall behind you Trusted Member

    All I would advise then is think long and hard on visa applications a Spouse Visa is a lot of money.

    You could look at if say you were planning a visit to the Philippines try tagging a visit visa for your good lady prior to your visit to the Philippines so as you leave she leaves. You could explain that in your letter. It may help for a positive decision it may not!
  14. ian136
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    ian136 New Member

    Yes so true Big Mac,I've learned very quickly the Philippines isn't as cheap as many people think.
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    ian136 New Member

    Sounds a good idea mattercube I think it's worth a try, my next visit will be in November.
  16. Mattecube
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    Mattecube face the sunshine so shadows fall behind you Trusted Member

    Reinforce the need for her to return!
    Be blunt as " as I board the plane she will be in front of me" Good luck.
  17. DavidAlma
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    Not sure why that would be an issue. Other guys on here previously married and divorced from their Filipina wife, remarried to another Filipina. Timing might be an issue, but 5 years is pretty long time.

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