Your thread dated 11.08.17 sheds further light, I am interested in point 5 of your good points " the man is always right" a very outdated viewpoint.
I pay I say as a football pundit once quoted ! Just kidding ( I think) By the way - reverse my order for wife's opinion
That's fine if you are happy. It's wrong to assume that it is the same for everyone, though, because it isn't.
By their very nature, surveys will deal with generalisations. What do you consider to be the main driving factor that motivates honest Filipinas to join dating websites filled with foreign guys? For every single member who fantasises about a Hugh Grant type gentleman with floppy hair and self depreciating humour, there are 500 who are simply looking for a better life.
I guess that is this one. http://www.british-filipino.com/ind...o-wife-good-and-bad-after-over-5-years.14898/ And the point in question is 'the man is always the boss'. A wise man once said that most women keep the man happy by making him think that he's the boss.
Your right about surveys but very clearly they can be biased to the thinking by the questions and available responses. As to what motivates a Filipino to join a dating site, the same can be said about westerners what motivates joining plenty of fish as opposed to something with a grander title dating site It's human nature to want a better life and a better life often encompasses love and affection,Not the bravado " the man is always right." Equally and not just in this forum or indeed this thread it has been suggested that some Filipinos will prostitute themselves by being in a loveless relationship for the benefits of their family again that is true of the western world. Aside from teenage flings I have been married once had 2 relationships and then married my current wife.in my next life I am going to marry her first and live happily for eternity
I think that's the wrong way to describe it! There are plenty of glamorous western women who 'prostitute' themselves in relationships which are clearly motivated by millions of pounds in her beau's bank account. Do we really think Melania Trump, or Mrs Bernie Ecclestone or Mrs Flavio Briatorre would have looked twice at their husbands but for their fat wallet? I wouldn't put the average Filipina who ends up with Joe Public in this category. I would sooner say that these girls make compromises. If you compromise, you can still find a partner who ticks several of the right boxes. If Filipino lads were on an equal playing ground when it comes to affluence or financial security, this website would have a far fewer members.
The point is as a human we all want the very best for ourselves and in doing that we will all cast our nets far and wide. The point I was making in my earlier post is that for some they are only to willing to stigmitise the Filipino lady as one who basis her relationship on " lots of money for shopping or the western guy will support all my family" and whilst I am sure it is true in some cases so it is true in the western world.
My conclusion is no matter what the poll indicates and from my own experiences in both Anglo Saxon and Asian relationships- MOST are governed by what THEY can get out of it. It's called human nature. We are all the same deep down. If your partner can admit to it - even better. Mine is in tampo mode as I was slow in getting across to her a birthday gift. A rare error on my part. Only as good as your last effort apparently ...
From her point of view you've now been slow on 20% of her birthday gifts. You don't live together? Have to say messing up on the birthday is a bit sloppy. Try harder.
I couldn't disagree more. Accidents happen, and if my partner cannot accept that then she is far too immature to take up my time and effort.
Just to go back to the poll for a second. I chose SECURITY. It wasn't really my first choice but there wasn't an option for what would be her preferred option.
Not using your valuable time and effort to take account of your partners feelings is not an "accident". It's merely sloppy and thoughtless and sends a message that you aren't making the effort. Indeed, the tone of your words implies that you feel that your time and effort is somehow more valuable than hers is. Why should a woman take the time and effort to be bothered with a self-obessed man who can't even remember her birthday? Why don't you try being married and consistently forgetting birthdays, anniversaries and so forth and see what happens to your relationship.
I have to add she did forget Father's Day completely and I am a good dad to 'her kids' - I on the other hand was merely late Ha ! In any case all relationships are about maintenance understanding forgiveness and the big one ...... "Plenty of money for shopping !" Hahaha
