Woody Allen, Soon-Yi Previn and various unpleasant allegations - who says witch hunting is dead?

I opened this article when I saw a Facebook link to it because I had cited Allen and Previn in my ramblings on the age gap in some relationships (including mine!) in the Euro Pinoy draft articles section.

It is quite an eye opener. Hell hath, they tell us, no Fury like a woman scorned, and we have all of us come to think that paedophilia is the vilest of all offences, but how many of us are troubled to ascertain facts?

http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2014/01/27/the-woody-allen-allegations-not-so-fast.html

It's fairly pertinent, because of the speed with which a lot of people jumped, and still jump, from "man in relationship with younger woman" to "man is obviously a vile pervert".

Generally people are opinionated and a lot of it is down to the fact nonsense is often driven this way. Look at the reality tv shows that discuss fashion disasters and other shows that are based on creating something out of nothing. I am not reading the article as I don't like Woody Allen and simply have never had an interest in him or his life. His constant whining just irritates the hell out of me.

But does the age gap matter? Answer to that question is like everything else its related to circumstance and simply only the two individuals involved know the facts and basis of the relationship "opinions" are what the media throw in. Do I care about people's age gaps? Many relationships the age gap doesn't bother me at all except when people take a 19 year old hooker and expect it to be accepted as normal when they are in their 60s. Neither are of interest or consequence to me, if I was asked my opinion I would give it but in all honesty I would just choose to have no contact with them.

That's part of the problem as these opinions are formed round the basis that people need approval from others. Different social groups and circles exist in life the Philippines - Foreigner relationship is always under scrutiny and its not all about age. The gap between my wife is the same as my former partner before who was British. But the important thing to the "trophy wife" mentality is telling people to simply mind their own business.

(final note marrying any prostitute regardless of age i disagree with, but marrying people of a different age its up to them to decide what they want in life)

That's a bit hard on, amongst others, the Emperor Justinian and Lord Nelson!

I don't see how anyone could know what the parties to a marriage did before they met unless its completely obvious, but I agree that a man who expects people in his social circle to accept the new woman in his life unquestioningly, as indeed Nelson did, is asking too much of human nature. New wife: new set of friends - divorce is social anathema at the best of times regardless of "who is at fault".

Its just a case of accepting people are narrow minded and opinionated. Its just the way people are here or in the Philippines. I find people worry about what the neighbours think in the Philippines more than in the UK. But i also find the most important thing is accepting people are just people, you shouldn't expect them to change but they may be over time.

Reminds me of meeting a friend of mine with his work mates in a bar in Worcester a few years ago. Paul I met a few years prior (not my friend but we worked together for a few days). At the time Paul wanted to get his wife to the UK from Thailand the guy is a manual worker and I always remember talking to him one lunchtime telling me he took the job as he needed to prove he was responsible and of a regular income for immigration. Like me he had contracted for years via agencies or direct so never kept a job long-term but now was doing something he didn't like to achieve the ultimate goal of his wife joining him. It changed him and although at that time he was a bit of a wreck because of the distance his focus was on the future.

Which gets me back to the pub! my friend was with his workmates (not Paul but another person) they were talking about Paul being under the thumb and not coming out on the beer. Which is when I said "He's got a beautiful wife, he's gone home with his wife having dinner on the table and in a home he owns. You lot are all single either living with your parents or in bedsits. Coming out on a Saturday night on the off chance you will meet a woman, who's laughing at who?". Ended up with someone making the joke of Paul couldn't get in because he didn't have a tie.

Moral of the story is you can tell an idiot what is wrong but it will not stop them being an idiot.