It seems common that people have met up online while going through a divorce. I think this is a time when people feel a bit lost and it's just nice to find someone you can connect with. When I met my now wife I was also going through a divorce - but still living in the same house as my ex-wife who had decided to get a boyfriend and bugger off out all the time while I was left at home looking after the kids. So, most evenings, I was just sat on my own downstairs and started going into chat rooms and so on. We made a bit of a connection stated to chat on Yahoo Messenger. It was really a case of me being grateful to have a total stranger to unload all my problems to and have a good whinge aout everything One time she suggested that if it's so bad I should go to The Philippines for a holiday. I thin she was as surprised as I was when I actually said I would, and I just packed my stuff and went over a couple of days later - much to the horror of my now ex-wife!! We arranged to meet up at the airport, and when I saw her I went up and gave her a casual friendship hug to greet her because I always do that with my female friends. She assumed that this meant I fancied her so began to hold my hand. And that was it! I was snared! It was great actually. We just hired an apartment for the week and spent the whole time laughing together. When she went to the airport she brought her sister and brother-in-law along just in case I was a nutter. I brought a book to read, just in case she turned out to be boring. Neither were needed.
Lol Kris brought her father along I think to make sure I wasn't some nutter or something. Hire car company met me at the airport also and we drove to Gensan to sign the paperwork with me and Kris sat in the back holding hands... me gobsmacked by her beauty!!!!
I met Asawa on a dating site. After landing I went to the hotel to get showered and changed. Asawa came to the lobby to collect me. After our greetings she said my mother, aunty, uncle and friend are in the car downstairs. I gulped and said yea sure
my ( 2nd ) wife of 24 years together died after a very long illness in 2007--aged just 58. i was totally shattered. about a month later--quite by chance--i met the woman who would become wife 3 a year later. i know i was very much still grieving---but couldnt think of a future on my own. my only family was my old dad. i had 3 grown up kids--but hadnt seen them in over 20 years--and 2 i still havent. however--wife number 3 turned out to be a disaster. i started to slowly discover more and more about her i did not like--at all. turned out she was a serial liar--a real walter mitty character. she really did live in a fantasy world of her own making. by the end of the first year of married life i had it out with her---and the reality was even worse than i thought. she offered to leave there and then--but i asked her to stay to see if we could still make something out of the mess. bad idea again. then--after a few months of her not working--she was a care manager--she took a job managing a care home--living in----at the weekend friday evening till monday morning. this turned out to be a blessing--i was on my own all weekend--and could do as i liked. but i didnt chase women--yet. after a few months i got friendly online with a woman---not at all a dating site--but a special interest website. one thing led to another--as it does--and an online flirtship started. eventually--december 2010--she came down to where i live for a weekend--and i booked us into a hotel. after that--we never saw each other again--but have stayed online friends to this day. but never going to be a full on relationship. this made me fully realise i did want to end things with the wife--it was never going to work---and i drifted into online dating. weekends were very busy! some of the women i dated have stayed friends. finally--october 2011--i met through PoF the lady who is now wife number 4! she was married back in the philippines--but hadnt been together for years. she was already here in the UK on a student visa --in her early 40's----and was hoping to settle here---her best bet was to marry a British bloke. she was open about it....and was fully aware of my being still married--and the wife living with me still. out of the blue--in march 2012---i came home from work to find a goodbye letter from wife--she had no idea of what i'd been up to---but wanted to move on with her life away from me. best letter i ever opened ! this meant my girlfriend could move in with me full time--which she did till her student visa ran out in august 2012. looking back--it was a crazy--fun--scary time. but who needs a dull life.
I met Juby on Facebook through a mutual friends posting I asked what she meant on her post reply and so from there we started chatting. I was living alone and the boring nights turned into pleasant chatty nights. Like Graham I was sort of invited for a holiday and never in my wildest dreams did I think I would travel to the other side of the world for romance it was just a holiday. Met at the airport by her and her 2 daughters and 2 of her daughters friends. Great 2 weeks get back on the plane thinking is this really happening, or am I just some old fool. Now happily married Juby has been in the UK since 2015 October and my world is a brighter place.
I met Micha on an online dating site specifically for trans. I had to pay though her membership was free as always. There were some really nice girls on the site, not the usual car crash profiles and opportunists. I am a soft touch so I have to be careful. I'm still fairy god father to my ex. I had already left the marital home and was feeling a bit lonely after 25 years of marriage and not a bad marriage either. Micha is successful in her own life and would maybe describe herself as protective of her feelings ( been there done that ). Anyway, every emotional wall we had just crashed down after the first skype call and after those first two days we have skyped twice a day every day since which is not eay as it means I go to sleep around 3am every day. I'm flying to the Cayman Islands in May ( there will be pictures ) and we're going to take a trip so St Petersburg in FL as well as she has a US visa. The hard part is knowing what we do after that. I know we're not a conventional relationship but the challenges are the same when it comes to visas etc.
enjoy those precious holidays as much as you can. You can always plan on the next holidays (it kept me sane during those LDR period). And when its right, both of you can cross that bridge. Goodluck!
I got stuck in a Hotel due to some bad weather (couldn't get out cause it was flooding) and he was at the same hotel because of a work event. Someone from his company asked me to go to their company event because a lot of people wouldn't be able to make it due to the bad weather and it would look bad if the event wasn't attended by a lot of people. We were accidentally in the same table and just started talking about movies we liked. And the rest was history!
My word. So many using social media and dating websites. I wouldn't have the patience to use those tools. Did you start off with the intent of finding a life partner, or just curiosity? For me, I was completely hammered. This is very unusual as I very seldom have a drink. Even when I was a kid growing up, I had no interest in drugs, cigarettes and alcohol. I would guess it's close to 3 years since I last had a Vodka and cranberry. Anyway. I was pished as a fart and I fell off the stool in a bar. A lovely bargirl helped me up to my feet and guided me to a less dangerous seating area. I offered to buy her a drink in jest (has turned out to be the most expensive drink I have ever bought). She agreed. One thing led to another....and here we are. She tells me now that she was absolutely terrified of me on that day. It took a while before she realised that however odd I am, I was not actually a drunken monster. I was just a drunken idiot. That girl has changed me. I don't think I was ever very judgemental, but she has certainly proven to me that you should never judge someone on first appearances. Life can be cruel. Circumstances can work against you. All things being equal, she is a far better human than I could ever be.
The problem of truth/trust comes from both sides. Is one side motivated only by money and is the other side only motivated by sex? The cynic would not trust anyone however its amazing what love can grow from. Just be careful out there.
Glad to say Im no longer out there.......... but others seeking love need to be.......... me blissfully happy
