Courting A Filipina.

Hello Everyone,

I'm new to this website and a friend of mine told me about it.

I've had some major difficulties in the past with regards to courting other people in different culture. It just came to a point where I've been losing a great deal of hope in the dating thing.

Some of my friends didn't know what was going on. We were talking one day and 2 of them considered why not consider a Filipina girl? I thought well, it's worth a try.

I met a new Filipina girl here in London through a mutual friend. We went out for coffee with a couple of friends with her and one of my friends. Shortly afterwards, we've been in touch at least once per week but that that turned into a daily communication. I've known her for almost 2 months now and we are friends.

I attended a Filipino party 2 weeks ago and she invited me to come out. I felt a bit awkward because this is my first time ever being friends with a Filipina and attending a Filipino party and didn't know what to expect. Boy was I in for a surprise. Everyone there was casual and laid back. The food was awesome, the entertainment was brilliant, and it was easy to socialize with anyone. I felt very welcomed there.

She started to introduce me to some of her girlfriends and 2 of her siblings. They had this great dance with mostly hip hop music and a couple of those slow ones for cha cha type music. We had so much fun and ended a great night.

I'm really starting to like her a lot but I'm holding back my feelings for now as I don't know how she may respond to it. We still keep in touch everyday. From my past relationships, nobody I courted before ever introduced me to some of her friends or family. I even send her text messages daily to wish her a good day and we would chat later.

First thing I'm wondering is when she introduced me to her girlfriends, what does it really mean?

Second, I met some of her siblings too at the party which we were introduced. I socialized with them getting to know them a little bit more. Is that a good move?

Third, I was wondering if there's anything else I can do to express my feelings for her without the risk of being turned down or otherwise? Any advice from a Filipina or Filipino with their experience I would love to hear about and hopefully they can some valuable feedback. Thanks for everyone who will read my post.

Cheers!

Thanks for your feedback. But what I'm wondering is why she introduced me to some of her girlfriends?

Its all about the mysterious Filipina, we love em!

Is that a good thing or a bad thing?

Its a good thing, they're not like western girls, they are more reserved and respectful than your average British girl, a lot more old fashioned when it comes to courtship I would say.

And some are good Catholic its girls, not unusual to have good looking forty year old virgin in the Philippines despite what you may have heard to the contrary.

They know how to behave themselves in public, that's for sure

So when she introduced her girlfriends with me and her family siblings saw us together I take it its a good sign?

I think you will be finding the answer out for yourself soon, there are many factors, just like western girls they come from different backgrounds and social backgrounds and its hard to pin their personalities down, but the Filipina in general always shows some of the traits we have mentioned so far in this post.

We all look at them a little differently but I think its true to say that we all respect and admire them, no disrespect to British girls on saying all that as most of us here are on our second marriages here at BF.

Hi and welcome, Leonard.

Looks promising to me.
Introducing you to her friends and family is a very good sign IMO.
She probably wants to know what they think of you.

I would also just be yourself and enjoy time with your new friend.
If you like her, she will get to know this and she will show you signs if her feelings are the same.

Romance is the same the world over

That's cool. Will she ever tell me their thoughts, should I ask, or just let things fall as they may?

I wouldn't ask her what her friends thought of you.
I would concentrate on the Filipina who interests you.
Filipinas can be very jealous

That's a good thing to know. So just let things be for now?

I would.
See how things pan out.
The fact that you have been out in public and partying is an excellent start.

I can say that it's a norm in the Philippines if someone introduces the one he/she is dating, meaning something serious is going on or just wants everybody's opinion about him/her..

T

Think i need to butt in now ... It was an all Filipino party and you were invited and introduced to "friends and siblings"..well that's a good sign! That means even before you even start courting her, she could maybe feel now you will eventually go for it lol, but for sure you were invited so those friends can "scrutinize you" ( i don't know if it's the right word but i'm sure that's the purpose.This could be strange to you but, in courting Pinays' family's observation and opinion about you "sometimes" matter...But it could also be this,WHY BRING you into the party?? becoz she wanted to tell everyone this is the "future guy" !And here, if we don't trust a person, or find him nice, we will never introduce him to friends /families.
I hope you got the hint loud and clear

That is cool! I truly do get the hint loud and clear. Thing with me is I'm a very cautious person at the same time too. I haven't got to the "courting" stage yet but I always like to start off becoming friends and get to know what makes her tick. Funny thing is that none of her friends really scrutinized me. We were way too busy dancing and having too much fun lol. A few of her siblings asked me some questions but not very many for now. We were all focused on having a good time. In the New Year, I will have more opportunities meeting more of her siblings and family.