Now long distance relationship is getting very popular as we have internet and lots of dating site. But how does one maintain the long distance relationship? As most of you know I found my OH online. And we have now been together only 2 times so far. First time was in feb when I went to meet her in HK and second in May when we both went to Philippines. Most of the time we keep in touch with each other by internet. Like WhatsApp, Viber and sometimes emails. We always communicate in some way and its always more than just ones a day. As she works in HK and me in UK we have times difference and that causes us a problem but now we have learned to work around it. Keeping in contact every day we are getting to know each other more. Also we are supporting each other on our wedding plans. Most importing thing in a long distance relationship is trust. We both trust each other. But I keep her informed about my daily schedule and I call her when I’m on lunch as she has her dinner that time. As she talks about food coz she loves to eat a lot but I’m not a big fan of food but just to make her happy I talk about it and listen. When I’m off she tells me what to cook and also checks on video if it looks good. So far I’m turning out to be not a bad cook and most important thing is it makes me laugh and happy. Cooking and eating is not only thing we do together. We share one Facebook, we play games together online, read same things, watch same shows on TV, and now we are planning our house on the app which she found on google play store. I have sent her a few postcards not online but by post. Which she received and she loved it as the postcards were the pic of Edinburgh and Scotland. I could go on about it but I don’t want to bore you guys. So how do you keep your long distance relationship going?
I had seven years LDR, if you trust the girl then there is absolutely no problem at all, the problems start when one in the relationship cant handle being apart. I found it very easy being apart to be honest, always went to visit the wife in Dubai or Manila every three months, I was 100% confident we would be together eventually, just need a little patience on both sides for it to work out.
He drew me and posted it to me. I looked more like Pocahontas there than Jenibele. exchange of love letters by post as well. He records poems to me so that I could get used to the accent, not helping much, I'd say. I also record prose and send him on facebook messenger. Leave each other video messages and pictures. We also play scrabble online occasionally. He's not a big fan but because I like it, he sends me challenges (more like he doesn't like losing to somebody whose English is only her second language? hmmm) Even played with his parents for some time. Keeping in contact every time we are free, with the time difference we can only leave messages that the other will be answering later some time during the day. He also lets me read his dissertation and allows me to give comments. I like it because it gives me the idea of what he is working on. We talk.. and talk and talk. Ah, we also sing to each other on skype. I don't know where he gets the courage to sing when he's so out of tune but it's fine because that's his practice for when we go to karaoke nights in the future.
Based on his study and from what little I remember, there have been an increase in usage of ebooks through the years. But university students still prefer the printed ones. There are a lot of factors, one is the access to ebooks. It needs an internet and a gadget. I actually asked him if universities could use an intranet system so that access would not be an issue but he said it is really expensive to have and maintain a system like that.
Same here, there's something relaxing and exciting about flipping the page with your finger. Do you like to read books?
My ex wife read soooo many books. Novels. 3 a week typically. But she was old school and was never keen on computer technology. However, after we divorced, our daughter persuaded her to get a Kindle. And she loves it, apparently. I think she saves money that way and probably is a big reason for the change. I only read non fiction. Technical magazines, scientific papers and manuals as part of my job. I find hard copies better, though if I want to search for a word on a computer copy it can help scan through the document more quickly.
Is there anything preventing him from visiting you earlier in the Philippines? I think an earlier visit if possible would help put your mind at rest, I'm sure of it.
Wow, she has a lot of time. I used to read a lot in college because I majored literature. I can't even finish one book in a month now.
He originally planned on visiting June. Before starting the new job which he is in right now. I was the one who suggested we see each other later in the year, when I'm already prepared financially. I mean, you know, I wouldn't want him to shoulder everything. I want to be able to buy things for myself when he comes without asking from my parents. I am not comfortable with the idea that I have to depend to him for everything. So he started this job and contract will end in December. So it's why we'll see each other by January where we'll spend 3 weeks to do things together.
Its good you feel that way financially I'm sure he would appreciate that but I think I can speak for many here and say that he will not mind at all shouldering all the expenses when he is there in the Philippines, I always appreciated my wife paying for small items or maybe a dinner or two. It is still common courtesy in the UK for the man to pay, and we do
Oh I sees, thank you for that insight. I believe that's true, as even now, he likes to send a few things for me. I think I just don't like to feel helpless. I want to buy a few things for him too and some pasalubong for his parents. When I mentioned to him we have a thing in the Philippines called "tawad" where you can haggle for discounts he was shocked. I told him if he came with me though nobody will give me any discount so he joked about hiding and then coming out when it's time to pay and asked me to imagine the dismay on the vendor's face. Ha!
I learned a new name for tawad. Long nose tax, I think I like that. Your wife looks lovely sir, is that a wedding picture?
My daughter studied Russian at Leeds. My two work colleagues both studied Engineering (Petroleum and Environmental)
