Discussion in 'Personal Discussions' started by untoldfattboy, Feb 10, 2014.
Oh dear that's not a good thing ...Maybe you really need to address the problem sis, Make him feel that you aren't his enemy ,and that you're on his side and that he can count on you .In your story seems like he is stressed and worried about something .We Filipinas ay magaling sa karenio ..kaya for sure kaya mo yan sis ...make him feel how much you love him and that you value his love and existence. I believe there is always answer to every problem. Kaya mo yan sis..
Well my take on it is that you shouldn't have to put up with domestic violence. I'm a bit concerned about that. Are you being hit, abused verbally or physically? You shouldn't have to feel scared in your own home. What is your immigration status in the UK? Are you worried that you have to put up with this behaviour because there is nowhere to go? I'm sorry for your situation.
My worry would be that the anger he takes on a TV and potted plants will, one day, be directed at you. He clearly has a problems in his life. Maybe he thought that marrying someone from overseas would make those problems disappear. I expect he hid those problems until you arrived in this country and, clearly, his problems were never going to go away.
Are you able to talk to any of his relatives to find out what the problems might be?
Yes i talked to his ---///
He abusing me VERBALLY only.--////
cherry blossom--did you get married in the filipines ?--and youve been here--what--a year now ?
no--i mean did you marry your present husband in the filipines ?
Hay naku sissy... you seems like hopeless but I always believe there is no bad person just bad attitude, and if he behaves like that there is reason why...I hope you will get to the bottom of your concerns...I will include you to my prayers kabayan..
This sounds like a complete nightmare.
Are you living in his mother's home ?
Has he ever actually left his mother's home ...and taken care of himself ?
What you have described so far is a selfish spoilt brat...bordering on , well, I wouldn't like to say.
His mom --/-//--
We married in the Philippines last year.
Well I don't want to pass judgement on anyone, so I can't comment on that.. but it sounds like you guys need to talk to each other if you're that unhappy. Its hard to give any constructive advice really because all the change has to come from you guys.. What exactly were you hoping to gain from discussing it on here? Are you looking for confirmation that something isn't right? Or advice on how to fix it? Or just looking to vent because you have no-one to talk to? Its hard to know how to respond without knowing what you're looking for..
I feel like he afraid that I am owning his asset! Lol . I told him that I am not interested to his asset
maybe he wants your asset.
Really having read all you have said Cherryblossom, I really think a forum like this is not the best place to get advice, I think you need professional help as it sounds like there is something really wrong with this man.
I don't want to jump to conclusions and I don't want to be alarmist but at face value from what you have said here you should speak to someone soon.