is online chatting cheating?

Oh my gosh. That's whereit's all started the platonic chatting... online is a good way of cheating..later in you'll goung to meet the flirting ..anyway I'm glad I'm not your fiancé cause I'm going to call the wedding off and say enjoy your chat mates ; )

Hi Erica.
Thank goodness we aren't all the same! I appreciate your point of view. I also feel very sad that you feel incapable of trusting anyone! I have NO intention of cheating on my fiance. I have several very close friends here in the UK also that are female! Purely platonic, good friendships that have lasted for years and will continue to thrive when my fiance becomes my wife and is here in the UK. Regards John

LOL GOOD LUCK LOVE ;*

Yeah, I thought that too.

Saw this viral video online (search for "Girl Cheating On Valentines Day BUSTED!!!")
I didn't post the link as there were swear words in the video.
Apparently she had set up a date - tricked into it by her boyfriend.
Then she got her comeuppance.

For me, anyone who cheats online is playing with fire, even if they don't meet in real life.
There is still a lot of pain for the partner who finds out.

Do you know the name of whatever site or app he is visiting?

I see your point of view and that's ok so long as both parties are perfectly ok with it. Many years ago, I had plenty of platonic female friends. My ex-wife didn't like that, perhaps she felt threatened, and in any case, she encouraged me to reduce contact. I feel that it depends on the individual couple. I admit that I, for example, wouldn't particularly welcome my current wife talking online to single guys on a daily basis. I know that my wife wouldn't enjoy it if I was talking daily to some single female friend or other. I would personally prefer for us to have shared friends who are themselves couples, or individual friends who are of the same sex. I think its safer and leads to less hassle.

Everyone is different, but I admit that I can't imagine a situation where my wife would go out for drinks with some male friend, or where I went out for the evening with a female friend, without some questions being asked and some friction. I can't imagine my parents doing that, for example. Indeed, I feel that it would be very selfish of me to insist that I would carry on doing exactly what I wanted with female friends if my wife didn't like it, and I certainly wouldn't enjoy the feel if I was treated that way either.

It also occurred to me that the intentions of some single guys chatting to women aren't always entirely gentlemanly. I can think of several guys in the last six months in the UK who have 'come on' to my wife in various subtle exploratory ways. Sometimes, when she's playing 'words with friends' and they start to chat, it's not long before the guy starts to flirt or make dodgy remarks. So I think its an area where care has to be exercised don't you think?

I don't think there is any difference between men and women regarding online cheating and the pain that can be inflicted.
It is easy to forget that women are just as bad at this.

Agreed

I wasn't implying that there was a great difference, after all it takes two to misbehave. However, I think generally, its men who tend to pursue women, which is probably why most women probably don't approve of their partners going out alone with women friends, and why women know not to put too much temptation in the path of guys. I recall my wife saying that women in the Phils assume the guy won't have any self control. 'What can I do if the rice comes to the chicken? ' these men say, as if they are helpless in the face of the woman's feminine charms.,

Frankly, its a load of tosh. Any adult should realize that there are certain standards of behaviour expected in a partnership and that includes being respectful of your partners feelings and not doing stuff that would make him/her uncomfortable..

i may be wrong--but i get the impression philppino men can do what they like--with the no-divorce law. what can the wife do if her husband chases tail ? she cant divorce him--so--he moves out--then what--does he continue to support his household--i doubt it. is that why we see so many women with kids on the dating sites ? then those absent husbands rub their hands with glee when the estranged wife gets a foreign partner. £££ kerching. let the good times roll.

I think women think online chatting is less threatening to them than meeting in person because of safety and men's higher predatory nature. However, this could be linked to more problems with their "main squeeze".

@ChoiAndJohn I salute you Sir! Your wife is very blessed to have you, you are loyal and understand us women when we say we don't like our man chatting with other women online. Why will you chat? There are lots of couple in real life that you and your partner can be friends with and if a guy is looking for a friend why will you look online? I'm sure there will more around you lol. I took the side of my husband regarding with this matter having female friend online and he said that's bloody c*nt he can't understand why an engaged am will chat to another single woman, if he wants to learn the culture of Filipina he can read blogs and articles online. My husband told me that maybe that man is looking for back up, options.

I'm choiandjohn wife.
Awww so blessed indeed sis, never felt so perfectly happy in my life and have nothing to ask for. I believe in respect and loyalty as one of the top ingredients of marriage . God bless us all in here..

right--and who pays the bills when hes in jail ?

If this question was referring to my post before yours, no!

I think both sexes are becoming very similar these days in real life but IMO, women are catching up very fast online!

Right! If a filipina women married a local guy and there's no divorce here he can can do whatever he wants, shag as many as he wants be irresponsible, bea his woman...the poor woman can't get an annulment because it's too expensive, so most of women here are stuck in a marriage or if they can't work it out they will just go separate ways without due process of law like annulment or divorce.
I hope that divorce will be introduced and will be welcomed here in Phil. I hope that people here will be open minded, it's not an evil thing. .look at it in a positive way, taht we all deserve a second chance..to be happy and loved.