LOVE AND HELP WANTED

but --seriously i know a lot of UK older guys got stitched up--under the old rules---lots of love and kisses for 2 years---then--vanished.

at least under the new rules i'm guaranteed all that bliss for 5 years---------

Given that though, aren't you a little concerned about protecting your financial assets? How do you overcome the concern that this arrrangement may indeed have an expiry date attached? Not that I want to minimize your lady of course. Its just the way you expressed yourself that made me pose the question..

my only income is state pension. so--i sold my house in 2013 to free up capital to meet the savings requirement. its cost me a fortune in rent since then. on top of the outlay for divorce--annulment--and other costs. the whole thing has been a financial nightmare already lol.

i'm just hoping she gets the medical green light this sept--so she can the apply for fiancee visa-----before the gov slam the immigration door completely.

I see. I hope that things work out as you want them to. Does sound to have been a bit of an uphill struggle.

yep. you dont know the half of it.

when i first joined the other site ( is it still going ? ) another member warned never to get involved with a married filipino. he knew something i didnt back then.--3 years ago.

I always like reading your posts bigmac covering this subject, I know you have your eyes wide open and are aware of the possible pitfalls that can come with dating a Filipina. Filipinas are very shrewd as you know.

I wasn't suggesting that YOU have double standards Nigel.

Good luck in finding a compatible partner. She certainly exists somewhere.

Stick around...lots of experienced (and sympathetic) folk here.

I understand why a lot of people have an issue with what the original poster has said.

The way he has structured the post he has stated he wants someone to help with his mother first before then mentioning be can offer love in return. He has also made it sound like a deal, a kind of transaction.

If the poster had put that he was seeking love first and what he was looking for in a woman and then mentioned that such a woman would have to be okay with sharing his attention with his mother, then no one would have a problem. However, it does not read like that is what he is looking for.

I would err on the side of caution as to me it does read like he wants a cheap nurse/maid. Either that or it was extremely poor use of language leading to such a misunderstanding.

Hi. Yes i did word it badly but i have already said this in a number of replies to others that have commented on my post, a loving partner is upper most in my mind but i felt it important to be open and honest about my situation with looking after my 83 year old mother who is in need of constant care which i would need a great deal of help with to look after.

that is all clear, but I want to understand - why did you pl choose to begin your search here? Was it because you felt that a Filipina woman would be more likely to be accommodating to the situation? Was it because you just naturally find Filipina women attractive? Or some other reason? Please don't feel uncomfortable I'm not trying to offend, I'm just finding this discussion interesting, I feel that it sheds some light on cross cultural attitudes.

In the past i have known a few Filipino women who i have always found to be kind caring and loving people, in fact about 30 years ago i was going out with one for about 6 months but for reasons i will not discuss on here it did not work out. I thank you for seeing that i have not tried to hide anything and have been open and honest with what i am looking for, maybe i have worded it badly but i am most definitely not looking for a slave, i happen to respect women.

Nigel with all the interesting back and forth what appears to have been missed is that your chances of success on here are pretty slight most Wives are won by bold adventurers , sallying forth to far away lands ,overcoming Dragons in there quest for fair maiden (well dark maiden perhaps) in your case that seems unlikely unless your mum travels well

I find this discussion interesting but perhaps I should start a new threead about this topic so as to avoid hijacking this one. Moving back to Nigel's request - yeah - I agree that chances are pretty slight on here -you might find more luck on a dating site - but I would certainly phrase my request much differently so as to not make it sound so much of a business deal

I fully except my chances are slim but it has to be worth a try.

This forum has a section called "British Filipino Friend Finder" and another called "Looking for love".

Seems as good a reason as any for Nigel to post on here.

I agree. I was just helpfully suggesting that if he joined filipino cupid or similar he might get faster results.

Surely Nigel is free to cast his net here as well as on what some may consider to be more 'suitable' sites ? Our partners have sisters, nieces, cousins, aunts.

I agree. I commented on the way that he wrote the initial post only. Its not my place to say whether this should be here or not. Just trying to be helpful and suggest that in addition he might consider a dating site. Why is everyone so sensitive today?

My original feeling on this subject have now changed. Purely due to the fact that Nigel has clarified his position. I therefore wish him well in his quest but please bear in mind the distinction that the forum is indeed not a dating site. Of course we see people come and go and some of the threads are requests for finding love, which is great but the OPs are generally advised that better results for love can be sought on a dating site or indeed as has been suggested a visit to the Philippines All the very best of luck Nigel.

i met my partner on plenty of fish--nearly 4 years ago. she didnt have a photo--so i didnt realise she was a filipina till we got talking.