I have a huge amount of respect and courtesy towards my wife. But my wife is by no means an angel. I feel it should be she is getting a little too long in the tooth for Tampo, but seems she will never be too old to sometimes be as sarcastic as hell and twice as mean in a what I like to call our calm down discussions. She always wins by the way, but I have it planned that way! I think
I'm still trying to deal with it but now Jonalyn has got no Internet so it only phone calls at the moment. Is there a way I could pay for the Internet from here so I know it's being paid
No offence intended here, but is there any reason you just can't wait for the contact to you? Serious question BTW
hi Micawber I'm not sure if you meant for me to wait for Jonalyn to contact me she can be very stubborn, to the point of cutting her nose off to spite her face as the old saying goes I know she will sit in her room brooding and so I call trying to find a way she can save face so we can sort this out but it hard for me this time coz not paying the internet bill I still not understand why or how she could do that
I think I should pip in about here... I have had a few moments of tampo now, the worst one lasted a few days. and each time it is down to the same thing - lack of communication. But things are better now thanks to Joy (I am trying not to call her Rizza as everyone else calls her Joy) getting full time internet from home. So now we talk on my days off work and even when I am in work, I have Yahoo messenger on my phone and the Facebook app allows me to chat through the phone So, all in all, there is not a day now where I will not have some form of communication with her. However, it was not always like this. When Joy was limited to Internet cafe's she would not spend long online with me as she hates being out late alone. And if her budget was shot for whatever reason, she was too shy to tell me so instead I was left wondering why we had stopped communicating for a day or so. Then, getting childish (as I can easily do), I would stop communicating myself and a silly span of a few days with no contact would ensue... Though, when we have had an argument our texts are long and run for hours. So, at least we managed to clear the air.. Long distance relationships are difficult, harder than traditional relationships. Throw into the mix a cultural barrier, and you have a mine field waiting to get walked over. My only advice is to never let a disagreement carry on for long! Get that stuff out of the way, make your thoughts known and take in what she has to say
Wise words and good advice from Kuya. The quote I captured above is in my opinion absolutely spot on. It's really not easy to handle especially in long distance relationship. Well it's not easy to handle in short distance relationship either. I hate that Tampo, when it happens it really upsets me. Terrible behaviour.
as childish as it sounds, sometimes the cause of Tampo is the feeling that the girl is not getting enough attention :attension:from the guy ... a feeling that she has been put aside and unimportant.. bad feeling for us girls and when we are on a huff, what we need is more TLC ... and if we are in a huff, never go in a huff at the same time
The worst thing one can do, is to go to bed still in a bad mood.... It leaves a bitter taste in the mouth, and it festers all night... Making sleep nigh to impossible at times. And making up, is great, as one is in bed already....
This has always been my objective also. There have been occasions (not many) when it's been next morning before going off to work. Just to be honest.
Cos even I understand I should keep calm, and not 'bite back' when it's Tampo time. I sometimes cannot control the urge to 'bite back' and tell her how childish her behaviour is. Then the Tampo goes up in rating to 'Tampo Warning 1 red-alert' and becomes so much more difficult to smooth (for me) But better to wait, say nothing, bide your time the make the peace moves....... yep much better. But hey, I'm a man so ...............................
I have to say guys that I take the view that I try to look what the underlying cause is. If its something I have brought about then im of course prepared to be understanding,apolagetic etc but I often find that if its a mis communication or something uncommunicated comming from outside I need to be clear and firm,as I have no desire to live my life in a constant cycle of emotional upheaval or in the worst case manipulation. Being consistant is in my view the way to go FROM the begining if you dont want to find yourself in a hole later on
this as I feel about these mods, sulkings, LDR is hard enough without them I try to understand but this latest one is just beyond me I'm not know what is going on there, if its family trouble or something else when i try to talk about it Jonalyn just will not feel like having a tampo of mine own
This is taking the pee, now..... Either - or... Time am afraid.. Ok, I didn't want to say, but I reckon I must ... You ain't going to like it very much, but going back, I cannot help feeling the presence of a couple of very small red flags.... I do sincerely hope that I am wrong, and everything will just fizzle away as silly immature pinay behaviour, but this nagging feeling is there..... Ultimatum time, and cut the money, and cut contact for a while.... Maybe a week or two.... LDR is bad enough without having to cope with emotional blackmail, and maybe you may have to start considering that your relationship is a one way street.... You wouldn't put up with this crap, if you were having a relationship with a british woman, why should you with someone 8000 miles away...?? Just see how she likes being ignored for a while.... A couple of people can vouch for my sixth sense on this....
Yeah Dom I think your sixth sense is on track, I would agree, it feels like something else is going on here, Patch mate you need answers as to what is going on, yes cut the money see what happens and yes have your own Tampo, you need answers!
