I would get into a conversation and state that the conversation is not changing until whatever is upsetting you both is out of the way...
Ain't going to work. She has got him in a butty, and she well knows. So ideally, he should stop sending money, as she is only spending it on other people and not on internet to be in touch, and cut contact for a while. Once she registers in her mind that the till ain't going ka-ching anymore she may be more compliant. But if she asks for money, or why it has not been forthcoming even before any niceties, then it has to be bye-bye time.
Maybe, but I would try my method and if that failed, then onto yours.. But the sad fact is something I learned a long time ago. If there is no communication, there is no relationship
Sean, it is clear in my mind that PATCH s doing all the running around, and trying his best to communicate. The lady, according to the little we know, isn't appearing to play ball at all but rather sit back and live off the fat of the land. She is in communication only when something is wanted or needed, ie money.... So she doesn't even need to hint and it is sent. We all have been there already, we got the t-shirt, we read the book, and helped with a few chapters, we are now doing the movie.... As I said, I dearly hope I am wrong in my assumption, but the more I think about it......
Yeah, I hear ya.. PATCH. Some easy advice for you. Listen to your head on this one, if you feel you are being taken for a ride then hold back the cash and instead save up for a holiday in Pinas
Look, I'm new here and don't know the story or background. But I've read the whole thread again. I can say, that I have heard this kind of story before. For whatever it's worth I would hang on in there, but................. I say send no more money. See what happens. That's consistently been my advice to others in exactly the same position. No offence intended. Just my outsider input. God Bless
last friday my relationship with jonalyn came to a end it seem once the money stopped flowing things went down hill she hardly came online and when she did I did not get much conversation from jonalyn. I thought she love me and all the signs were there that she did and when i was with her in manila everything was great so I not know went wrong from then and if was a long con. I'm pretty sadden how it as turn out but before jonalyn I was so shy and not like to meet new people that I hardly left my house except to go to work and even done my shopping in the dead on night and would of never consider get on a plane and go to one of the most crowded city like manila before so this done one good thing for me so for that I'm thankful I'm thinking of joining a Asian dating site after a little while and see how things go
PATCH, I am really sorry to hear about the very sad outcome. It's a big blow. Personally I would suggest you hold fire on joining an Asian dating site, just give yourself some time to get back to normality and to reflect on what happened. I hope you will keep a regular contact here on the forum. There's a lot of practical advice to be had, maybe opportunities for a visit to Phils to find that special someone. You take care PATCH You are in our thoughts
Sorry to hear the news, and I hope that you won't fall for another one on the rebound, as it isn't the best thing to do in cases like these. Micawber is quite right is saying to hold on for a while, and ease off the gas pedal a bit, slow down, it is in your long term interest. Take stock and write everything off down to experience, meeting people on dating sites leaves you open to all sorts of long term scams. Don't feel too bad, PATCH, the break up may well be a blessing in disguise. Besides I still have a good looking sister in law available on the shelf.....
So sorry to hear this mate But as the guys have said this is a chance to start again and it sounds like you have used the experience to grow up a little, I have been there sir I know what it is like to be alone for a long long long time, 20 years in my case at one point and a similar life to what you describe. The guys are also right in saying DO NOT DIVE IN AGAIN take some time sir and get yourself together and you are in my thoughts too, take care mate it's a hard time!
thank you everybody for your thoughts I will take sometime to before i try again and take it slow I'm going to use the money i use to send to save up for my next trip to philippines even if its just for a holiday and not to meet anyone as I fall in love with the place and the people
Hi Patch, Sorry it didn't work out this time. If I were you, I would go to the Philippines and go and see all the wonders those islands have. Whilst travelling and looking around, you will get a good idea of the customs, if you keep your eyes open. Make some friends, ladies too. If you make friends and don't expect to find love, perhaps you will make friendships that could last a long time. I would not contact Jonalyn, seems she has an agenda and you would be best to lick your wounds, heal and try to have fun. Best of luck in whatever you do
i'm sorry about what happened... I agree with sir dom says, the break up might be a blessing in disguise so cheer up! there are lots of nice filipinas out there
sorry to hear that too... but at least, she showed her color early on.. imagine if you ended up marrying her only to find out that she has a bf in pinas and has been only after your money (hmmm.. sounds familiar... hehehe) ... there are loads of honest nice women out there, may it be a filipina or not... and once you're ready to have another relationship, always keep in mind that the lady who will love you dearly and honestly won't ask for money, nor mention money.. and don't mention it as well.. only help when absolutely necessary... good luck!
only one thing i could say to you Patch "When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one that has opened for us." goodluck and remember Sometimes you just can’t open up to someone. Not because you don’t trust them. But because once you tell someone how you feel inside, you’re giving them permission to hurt you… a friendly reminder here Balot at your service :amen::violin:
