Nonsense. If you are in a serious relationship with someone you share and you look out for each other. As I already said, Mrs M was working harder than you or I probably have in our lives for very little reward. I didn't want that. I guess your own wife is one of the lucky ones who had the financial back up to enable her to go to university, but a lot of people there don't have that. And nothing is free here. No recourse to public funds. Remember. And Mrs M was out looking for work as soon as she was allowed to. And found it pretty quickly because she has a work ethic way above mine.
I get the impression that most of us on here and on the other channel have married Filipinas that arent from wealthy backgrounds. And of those I imagine some have shorter pockets and some have deeper pockets. Some may have married Filipinas that have come from backgrounds a bit more fortunate than others. Nothing wrong in that. But for those whose wives / girlfriends havent been so fortunate in their lives back in the Philippines I dont think we should be made to apologise for marrying them or for sending them and / or their immediate families money in support, either now or back in time before they aquired their visas for the UK.
I disagree with this. If Foreigners send money it indicates the family of the wife or girlfriend is not affluent. To send £100 per week sends the wrong message. Maybe for John "Chandelier" it is ok but for most it is excessive.
The amount depends on the circumstances. I have a friend who is a curtainside driver; he sends £600 a month but he is supporting his gf and three kids, the smallest of whom is just two. He lives like a church mouse and is as happy as Larry; he intends to retire there rather than bring the whole family here.
Rather than sending excessive amounts which encourages laziness, I paid for my wife's brother's passport. He now works in Sau'di and helps his family and gets more out of life too.
Totally agree with that. The circs in which one might just send money are if she is taking care of her parents or if she has a kid below school age or if she is a student.
Yes, we all know what is and what isn't important. My wife has told me of the laziness that spreads through a family when too much money is sent over. I have seen this in many Asian countries, particularly from the stories that many men in the oil patch told me. If I had kids over there like Jim, I too would send as much as possible.
Best phrase I heard was, " When youlive here, you learn the true value of a peso!" The Thais and the Filipinos and I fancy the Indonesians (but NOT the Vietnamese or the Cambodians!) will work no more than they can see is necessary to keep the wolf from the door and (more important!) the beer in the "ref," for the next couple of days! Which is why Filipino employers seem, to our eyes, to be harsh.
Sending too much also propagates "long nose" tax, something that is abhorrent (my wife detests it too). We should all be vigilant to enhance our wives' families in the right way.
No it doesnt indicate the family or wife is not affluent. They may be wealthy and one might still send 100 quid a week. For you, being a tight fisted kind of person it might be the case though. Either that or you have a queer sense of logic.
