Yes, they are definitely issues they need to address. It's just that some people immidiately assumed he was being taken advantage of, but there could be more depth to it than that.
well, there are two red flags there. he needs to assure himself carefully. It may be OK or it may not, but in a few weeks he will know.
you have given me much hope maharg, when i first so those flags i felt gutted again after being scammed before, and very angry with her. i phoned her right away and layed into her calling her nasty names she did come back with the answer right away without having think of an answer, so maybe you are right. I will know next week one way or the other ,i hope it is all good. I am giving up of finding another girl if this all turns bad. Will post back on here let you all know
Hopefully it will all work out great for you. I'm putting my trust in her to come good, but only you know how she really is as a person! If she comes across as an honest, decent person to you then it's a pretty good bet that she is exactly that. Forget even thinking about finding other girls. You're still with this one!
In a situation like Frank finds himself in I think he needs to find her guilty until she can prove her innocence
Hi frank! I can only say,you need to be vigilant. Staying with her for six months,is long already to know her better and her family. Convinced her that you want to stay to the house of her aunt, you can know the person better if both of you staying in one roof. Be sensitive to their body movements and facial expressions,specially if they are talking in tagalog or native dialect. I'm so sure out can sense it, if something is fishy! But I assured you,not all filipinas are scammers....maybe the prior gf you had, in need badly. I hope that your stay here will be happy and successful! Another thing. Spend your money wisely...
£100/week - dear me, bet her family were a little bit happy. I would not recommend such extravagance for others starting off with a girlfriend in Phils.
Like you say Maharg i am not going look for any one else till i know her better i intend to ask her out right if she is under any pressure from her family two brothers that dont work an auntie who dose not work only her mum and dad have jobs. Next Tuesday will be the third time i have been Philippines to meet her, and the other times she was very honest and virtues. Spend my money wisely? If all is OK i will be spending most of it on her, to help her start some kind of business so she will have her own income some thing more than just selling t shirts. Any suggestions on here would be helpful also. Up to now she has said about buying fish as it is a fishing village and taking it to Manila to sell, or setting up a groceries store
Good to hear frank,that you are willing to help her to start her own business. At least by that, she will have a source of income to help her family. That's a very good idea! Nice to know also that it would be your third time in the Philippines. No plan yet, to apply fiancé visa for her?
Frank, everywhere in the world most businesses fail sooner or later, before trying to set her up in business try to work out if she has a head for business and understands profit and cash flow, any business that does not manage its cash, fails, period. Many 'self-employment' small businesses out there are under-capitalised which means they are always seeking to find new capital to continue, it's one of the places the pressure comes from to find ways to get money from 'the foreigner'. When it comes to capital, they need to understand that a lean period does not mean they can spend the capital in the business, when sales are not happening then they have to tighten the belt or else whatever the business it will fail. edit: sorry I missed a word above 'not' earlier.
The two unemployed brothers are not good news. I would be cautious about fish selling; it is a very organised business. My ex wife comes from Orani, Bataan, and her whole family were/are fishermen, fish vendors, fish farmers, etc. (Certainly my girl does NOT have a head for business, as ventures in chicken rearing and rice trading have proved! But she has been a reliable assistant to her sister.
The appropriate amount depends on where a lady is living; is she with her parents? And where in the country? The cost of living in a city is going to be quite a bit higher than in the countryside. K's parents make a cash income of around 130k pesos a year. But they are farmers; they are self suffient in rice, fruit, vegetables eggs chicken and pork. They buy coffee sugar and milk, detergent, etc and pay their land tax (10k a year) and water and electricity bills.
Now, with my wife being here in Britain, we dont send a penny back to the Philippines. Except at christmas. Her immediate family are all working.
I think you are going about things in the right way. I agree with Maharg. Just keep your wits about you. As Maharg says, none of us know the full story anyway. One thing more. Were you intending to marry the lady and bring her to the UK? If so then the merits of setting up a business at this stage seems to be debateble. But having said that, setting up a retail business that doesn't make much of a profit or isn't going anywhere, isn't necessarily a bad thing if the outlay isn't too great. It can give somebody something to fill their time and can be good experience. I ran a retail business a good few years back. I didn't make much but didn't lose anything either. But it was quite interesting all the same, if you see what I mean. Good luck on your trip. Keep us informed. Thanks.
